SAY IT LIKE YOU MEAN IT: Going Deeper into Effective Communication | Love By Faith with Kyle & Selina Almodovar #073

Kyle and Selina explore going deeper into effective communication in their new series "Say It Like You Mean It," sharing personal examples of miscommunication and strategies to improve marriage dialogue.

• Communication requires intentionality – couples can't assume understanding without explicit conversation
• There's no such thing as over-communication; clarity prevents misunderstandings
• The "What did I just say?" technique confirms messages are received correctly
• Speaking directly and honestly builds trust when partners know it comes from love
• Communication triggers like raised voices, cold shoulders, or crying can instantly derail conversations
• Vulnerability about past relationships and childhood experiences deepens understanding
• Different communication styles require adaptation and patience
• Body language and non-verbal cues are powerful communication tools

Join us next week as we dive deeper into communication triggers and pitfalls that can derail even the strongest relationships.

*Sidenote: We came up with a total of 12 communication topics out of this episode!! Be sure to tune in all month long to see which topic we'll dive deeper into!

Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Communication Series
• 4:30 Speaking Life Into Your Marriage
• 8:42 When Communication Falls Apart
• 16:18 Finding Timeless Connection
• 22:38 Ensuring Your Message Is Received
• 27:44 Communication Triggers and Pitfalls

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Say it like you mean it. Say it like you mean it. We didn't have a topic.

Speaker 2: 0:03

So we didn't communicate about the communication series.

Speaker 1: 0:05

This could have been an email. We don't need to sit and talk about this. This is redundant.

Speaker 2: 0:10

Guys, are we communicating enough about our feelings?

Speaker 1: 0:13

But what happens when we remove communication altogether? We're not perfect people.

Speaker 2: 0:18

By any means.

Speaker 1: 0:19

But by trusting in God we learn what it takes to build a friendship, A relationship.

Speaker 2: 0:23

But by trusting in God, we learn what it takes to build a friendship, a relationship and marriage that has stood the test of time. With a Keeping it Real style. We're going to talk to you about everything everything that we've been through are going through and have overcome All by learning how to lean on God and each other.

Speaker 1: 0:45

In order to help you learn how to love by faith.

Speaker 2: 0:58

Listen, I'm 37.9 years old, such a young babe. I'm like I care this much about what is in style now and I care this much about looking good.

Speaker 1: 1:10

You know what it is. There's a part of me that wishes I was raised.

Speaker 2: 1:16

Maybe not lived or born, but if I was raised in like italy or france, where fashion is just so like second nature okay and then I take that exquisite childhood upbringing and I bring it back to the states and I'm just fashionable without even trying that's like cultural, because they don't have you know, I picture they don't have department stores like we do where we just have mass-produced clothes like they have, like clothing shops where people who care about clothes, make clothes? Yeah, they don't have like they might racks and racks of, you know they might old navy shirts right.

Speaker 1: 1:59

I'm wearing right right. We depend too much on the trend it's our culture.

Speaker 2: 2:04

Yeah, two different cultures, yeah, you know, I think I take all the upsides that we have.

Speaker 1: 2:10

As I get older, I realize that I don't want to chase trends Right, and so I'm trying to look for just those staple classic pieces.

Speaker 2: 2:22

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 2:22

Where it doesn't matter what the trend is Right, staple classic pieces where it doesn't matter what the trend is. If I put it on, it's in fashion and it's stylish enough to to compliment me and my figure and my, my tones, my, my features, and I can wear it in any season and it it will work. Timeless timeless, timeless classic pieces.

Speaker 2: 2:44

Takes me into today's topic. It's perfect new month, new series new month, new series we're in may. Spring is officially here.

Speaker 1: 2:52

We're in our spring springtime season do you think it's gonna snow again? No do you think it's gonna be below 30 again? No thank god, we made it guys we made it we.

Speaker 2: 3:04

This month we're talking about communication. The series is called Selena.

Speaker 1: 3:09

Say it like you mean it.

Speaker 2: 3:10

Say it like you mean it, say it with your chest.

Speaker 1: 3:12

Say it with your chest. Do you know where that's from?

Speaker 2: 3:15

No, I know, I've heard it said forever, though.

Speaker 1: 3:18

I want it could have been dated before this, but I'm pretty sure kevin hart said it kevin hart he was in one of his bits.

Speaker 1: 3:25

Say it with your chest okay, that sounds right I can hear him say that yeah, so say it like you mean it amen now we had a communication series in the foundation series in season one and we encourage you guys to go back and listen to that, because the whole purpose of the foundation series itself was to get you just the groundwork, the foundation pieces to help you jumpstart. So this is kind of just bouncing off of those topics that we talked about going a little bit more deeper into some of those things so that you guys can really just hone in on those specific things that couples really struggle with when it comes to communication.

Speaker 2: 4:07

Yeah. So this week, without further ado, we're digging into speaking life, into your marriage. Speaking life you give me that look.

Speaker 1: 4:15

That's not what we talked about.

Speaker 2: 4:17

What do we?

Speaker 1: 4:19

We didn't have a topic. We didn't have a topic.

Speaker 2: 4:22

So we didn't communicate about the communication series.

Speaker 1: 4:25

How ironic is that? How ironic is that? No, because, honestly, we've had, we have topics all the way until the end of season two right, we're ready and then you know a few months and I think it's like every three months we go in and we like hone out each episode details right we didn't do that this time I think it's a great example of how things will look when you fail to communicate, yes, and how how our experience doing this and working together through the bad communications can still can still move forward.

Speaker 2: 5:01

But then when we come in with a fully prepared or like a fully ironed out episode, yes, how different it feels.

Speaker 1: 5:08

But let me show you what God does, because even when you have a mess like this, as long as you have Christ at the center, he's going to pull the crumbs that you offered and he's going to turn it into bread, because watch this, this is a perfect topic. Turn it into bread Because, watch this, this is a perfect topic, even though it's not a real topic. This is a perfect topic of what couples go through when they just assume that they can just go through life and go through the relationship, not having to talk about things, not having to have a sit down talk. I think a lot of the times people think like, okay, we're on the same wavelength, we're vibing. I understand you, I can finish your sentences and they just naturally assume that they don't have to have a sit down talk.

Speaker 1: 5:53

And some people feel like having a sit down talk is so reflective of like a negative, you know mindset, of like going to work this could have been an email we don't need to sit and talk about this. This is redundant. I assume you know because you're an intelligent person, because why would I date a dumb person? And so therefore we don't need to talk about this. But then you guys get there, you sit on the couch if you will and you press the record button if you will, and then all of a sudden you're like what you never talked about this.

Speaker 2: 6:26

I thought we had that figured out Right. We talked about this last time. Why don't you remember?

Speaker 1: 6:30

And so what happens when you're at this point in a relationship is that you immediately fall apart with feelings. You get defensive, you feel like you weren't heard, you feel like you were ignored, and all of these other things start to come out, where you're like whoa, I didn't realize we had all a waste of time. Obviously, it didn't work last time, right, we sat down, we talked about this.

Speaker 2: 7:08

We're right back here sitting down talking about it again. Yes, why are we even ramming our head against the wall to have this talk again? Why do we need to refresh this?

Speaker 1: 7:16

What a good point, kyle. The fact that people repeat and remind and bring things up over and over and over the question. Really, if you have to repeat it, was it ever communicated in the first place?

Speaker 2: 7:32

Okay, I would say yes, it was, I think, and I even have a biblical example ready.

Speaker 1: 7:38

Okay, bring it.

Speaker 2: 7:38

We just got through Easter. Yes, we just got through Easter. We always do a great Easter lesson with our kids. Yes, I enjoy doing it. This year I put a lot more time in it this year than I have in the last couple years and one of the things is when jesus is praying in the garden he comes and he tells them to stay and pray with me.

Speaker 2: 7:58

And they're praying and he comes back and he thought they fall asleep. He wakes him up like, hey, you're, you're sleeping, wake up, let's pray I wonder why he needed them to pray with him and he came back and especially when he was leaving away and coming back. So he told him multiple times, like, let's pray in the garden and pray. Stay up, let's pray and pray yeah, and they were all had the itis, like my son said the other day when we're reading this.

Speaker 2: 8:23

He's like they had the itis, because they just got done with the feast. Much food, yep, too much bread, and so, yes, jesus had to communicate it multiple times. You know, I'm going, I'm coming back, I'm going, coming back. And so we have to go back to the plan. Check on the plan. Where's the plan at? Where's the communication at? Are we communicating enough about this? Are we communicating enough about our finances? Are we communicating enough about our date nights? Are we communicating enough about guys? Are we communicating enough about our feelings? Are we, are we?

Speaker 1: 8:52

communicating enough about guys, are we?

Speaker 2: 8:53

communicating enough about our feelings? Are we speaking life to each other enough?

Speaker 1: 8:57

I always feel like you have to communicate as though you were talking to a three-year-old. Okay, there's never. There's no such thing as over communicating.

Speaker 2: 10:18

So you're saying I'm just a big 37.9 year old, three year old.

Speaker 1: 10:22

There are some. Wouldn't it be 0.11? Cause your birthday is like Keep going Okay, 90%. Squirrel. There are yes, there's I have to. There are some moments where I literally think I said enough. And then I come back around and I'm like I just want to revisit this one more time, because now I'm like, wait a minute, I didn't explain it enough, he's got that look again.

Speaker 1: 10:48

I didn't explain it enough, as I would to a child. So let me and it's not to say that, Kyle, I see you as a child it's not to say that I am disrespecting you and undermining you as my husband, but I have to make sure that what I'm saying is so clear, is so understandable, that even a child could understand what I'm saying. Because if I do it that way, if I can break it down that much, then I know if the message is not received it's not my fault. It makes me feel like I did everything in my power to really break this down. You know, um where this episode is coming out right around our anniversary.

Speaker 2: 11:34

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 11:34

Okay, this is what. 12 years.

Speaker 2: 11:36

Yeah, the week after our anniversary 12 years so congrats, good job we made it around, you survived 12 years with me.

Speaker 1: 11:43

Thank you. You made it 12 years with me.

Speaker 2: 11:45

Thank you for your service, good job I like our friends who say they got to renegotiate every five years.

Speaker 1: 11:50

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, they were negotiating, yeah, um, but when we first got married, we used to do this thing where it was like I said something and then I'm like, okay, now what did I say?

Speaker 2: 11:59

That is so helpful. I remember the first few times you did it to me. I felt like like yes, like you were treating me disrespectfully, like a kid, and I definitely got defensive and was like what do you mean? What did you? Just say no, I'm not answering that, you said what you said and I got so mad.

Speaker 1: 12:16

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 12:16

But now, when you say it, after doing it a few times and realizing, I did not understand what she just said, it's almost always different what you heard and what I said it's helpful to say that and I've gotten used to the tone and maybe we can dig into that deeper in this series but I've gotten used to your tone to know she's not saying this to be disrespectful. She's saying this to make sure that I understand. She's saying this to make sure that she's heard. And I definitely find myself doing it too. Like what did you just hear me say? Like what do you understand that I want to come out of this talk? Yes, and that it's helped us, yes, it's helped us to be like, hey, what did you just hear?

Speaker 2: 12:53

And like to take it at face value that we are just trying to be understood with each other yes and not be disrespectful right yes and I think one of the things in 12 years is that we have learned how to be blunt with each other and to accept it and not be not be disrespectful about it. Like we can correct in love, we can be blunt in love and I can take you just saying what you want to say, say what you, yeah say like you mean it.

Speaker 1: 13:21

Say like you mean it.

Speaker 2: 13:22

Yeah, and not take it as offensive or like my feelings are hurt because we just want the best. It goes back to the love and respect and we talked about that that. I know you have our best interest that you are not operating where you're trying to bring me down. Have our best interest that you are not operating where you're trying to bring me down. And if that is how you're operating, I'm trusting you to check your heart and say hold on, wait a minute. I'm not doing this to build this up. I'm doing this just out of spite. I'm doing this because I'm mad. I'm doing this because I'm hangry. I'm doing this because the timing isn't right. I'm doing this because I feel embarrassed and I'm trying to embarrass you back. Communication bluntly is so helpful to just say it like you mean it and me understand that you're doing it from a place of good heart and goodwill and just to be understood.

Speaker 1: 14:06

You know, that's a whole topic in itself. That maybe we can revisit in a couple weeks is when you say things and then the way you receive it if you're not sure or if you're not secure in knowing that what your spouse is saying is being said in love. That's an issue. Yeah, because I was mainly, you know, in my teenage years. I was mainly raised by my father and my uncle and my brother. I was surrounded by men Very cutthroat, very black and white, very blunt, straight to the point, did not sugarcoat anything, and so when we got together I was already pretty blunt, very rough around the edges, because that's how I was raised. Not every girl is raised that way.

Speaker 1: 14:56

And so for, yes, women have to toughen up a little bit and women have to receive kind of that bluntness because they're they know that it's being said in love and they know that. You know we're not going to sugar coat this, because this is a problem and we need to get to the root of it. Or there is a conflict or there is a miscommunication that needs to be addressed. You know we don't have time for sugarcoating, we don't have time to caress your hand and get you through it, but at the same time. Why is that a coping mechanism to keep you from communicating all the way? You know, like that's a whole episode in itself that we could talk about, and so many other topics that I mean let's just keep going on and on. If we I'm trying to get 10,000 steps a day, that's my goal.

Speaker 1: 15:38

It's my health goal this season, and the best way for me to do this is to watch one of my all time favorite movies, which is the Avengers Endgame and Avengers Infinity War. And I just got to the part where Tony Stark lands on the planet and he is encountered with the Guardians of the Galaxy and they're fighting each other because they don't realize they're on the same team.

Speaker 2: 16:06

And Chris Pratt's character. What was his?

Speaker 1: 16:07

name star lord, star lord, favorite movie of all time you don't remember. Sorry, I'm trying a brain fart. So star lord is like where's gamora right? And then tony's like I'll do you one better. Who is gamora? And then you got Drax on the floor and he's like I'll do better, why Gamora?

Speaker 1: 16:21

So it makes me feel like I say all that to say you know, we talked about what communication is in the first half of this. We talked about all of the many facets that we can go deeper into this month, about why we need to communicate and why it's so important for couples to communicate and what happens when we communicate ineffectively. Yeah, but what happens when we remove communication altogether and people couples decide it's not even worth talking about? That's a whole conversation. I think should definitely be an episode, you know, when people are perhaps not necessarily ready to give up. But it's like I don't want to talk about that past, like can you imagine if I never talked to you about my past relationships with past boyfriends or past issues? Because I'm just like. It's just, it's just too stressful, it's too traumatic.

Speaker 2: 17:18

Like well, it took us a long time to get there. I don't want to talk about it, I don't even want to go there. There was a season where I didn't want to hear about it. I'm still getting to know you and I didn't want to hear about all that stuff.

Speaker 1: 17:26

This is an episode that we should have, because I feel that there are couples out there who are just not even going there. They're not even going there and I believe to be vulnerable and to be brave and to be loving enough to understand those places can really help you not only overcome them, but help you reach a higher level of communication with your partner.

Speaker 2: 17:53

Overcoming those past hurts and past traumas are real and communicating about it to your partner so they can understand you better is real, and so that's totally an episode, yeah, and not just past relationships but like childhood trauma with your parents, childhood trauma with your, with your family life, like oh yeah, what it was like growing up and that may be hard to talk about with your partner. Yeah, it might take. You might have to be together for a while before she's ready to talk about it.

Speaker 1: 18:17

Do it with a counselor it might be a marriage counseling thing yeah and that's that's real the other lack of communication that I'm thinking of, since we're in this bubble, is when couples don't want to communicate with other people. Okay, so you know, mentors, not just mentors but okay, we are a gender, we're considered the millennial generation, right? And I would like to say that the previous generations before us, they don't talk, they don't air their dirty laundry, keep it in the house. What stays in the house, you know, we don't talk about it, and I feel like a lot of people in our age range, or maybe more they whatever happens in their household stays in their household. They don't talk about it. They don't talk about it with their mentors. They don't talk about it in prayers. They don't talk about it in small group settings. They don't even talk about it with their friends. People could be struggling within their marriage and they will never talk about it because they're either ashamed or afraid or they're in denial, and that could really break a relationship.

Speaker 2: 19:25

That's a hard one for me, because I think there's healthy boundaries in those layers that you just talked about, where I'm not talking about my relationship to everybody.

Speaker 1: 19:34

Not everybody, I'm not saying share it with the world on a podcast.

Speaker 2: 19:37

My guy Kev at work love that dude. I don't tell him about stuff I'm struggling about with you.

Speaker 1: 19:42

There's different circles is what I'm trying to say. But to not say nothing If there's someone who is getting abused or someone who is not intimate for years, those are extreme examples, but yeah, I hear you for years.

Speaker 2: 19:56

Those are extreme examples, but yeah, I hear you they're very extreme examples, they're exaggerations, but talk to your pastor, at least start there.

Speaker 1: 20:02

If they're not, you know this. I think this could be a good episode. Yeah, to dive into, like what happens if you're there okay how do you get out of it? What if? What if you know someone who's there, how do you get to them? You know?

Speaker 2: 20:15

that's a good one. I think about um pitfalls to avoiding communication. Okay, sarcasm, yes, down talking oh yeah negative humor.

Speaker 1: 20:24

Yes, embarrassing your partner yes, knowing when to talk about the topics knowing when to talk about the hard stuff. Yes, knowing how to call a time out knowing when to talk about certain things, because you don't just talk in public about things that you're like.

Speaker 2: 20:41

This needs to be done because listen, you get out of line. I'm gonna take you home real quick oh my gosh kyle you gotta come back.

Speaker 1: 20:49

For that I will take you home quick quick I said no. I said take me home, Don't pick me up ever again. I'm pretty sure I said those words. You did not.

Speaker 2: 21:00

I said you can take me home right now, let's go. And you started walking away. I said all right, I was so mad, we were picking mini blinds.

Speaker 1: 21:07

Well, now you have to tell the story. No, I don't.

Speaker 2: 21:08

No, I don't. I'll keep them coming back for more.

Speaker 1: 21:11

That is a great topic.

Speaker 2: 21:13

Come back later in the series. We'll definitely drop that story.

Speaker 1: 21:15

That is definitely a good topic because you are absolutely right, there are people who are tearing each other down and shaming them and disrespecting them in plain sight, all covered over the blanket of. I'm just joking, we're just playing. This is how we flirt. Flirt and that's not cool communication triggers triggers triggers.

Speaker 2: 21:41

So yelling, raising your voice at me is one way to get me to just clam up, I'm gone no, I can't stop yelling, because that's how I talk that's dave chapelle crying. Crying triggers people to stop talking. It could trigger you to want to stop talking because you feel yourself about to cry and crying is okay. Crying is communicating. Body language is real Cold shoulder, just straight days of cold shoulder.

Speaker 1: 22:08

Yes, it's a power trip. What are we doing?

Speaker 2: 22:12

Yeah, that's good. So those communication triggers, that's a whole great idea.

Speaker 1: 22:17

Yes.

Speaker 2: 22:18

Okay.

Speaker 1: 22:19

We talked about a lot and this is only the month of May, so we have three topics left. We have three episodes in May before we jump into our June topic, you know, once we get there. So let's kind of start boiling this down, like, out of all those topics that we talked about, you know, and I wish I could do a poll, guys, I wish I could take a poll and you guys could vote and and do that, but I don't think, um, I don't think our audience is big enough to to actually get a good answer by next week, to figure this out.

Speaker 2: 22:49

We're getting there.

Speaker 1: 22:50

We're getting there in in small steps. Of all of the topics that we talked about, yeah, which ones really moved you the most? To be like we could talk here? I personally what keep going what, no, what is?

Speaker 2: 23:06

I laugh because in my head I'm thinking all the ones that I said, of course. Uh, tell me which ones. Which ones do you think?

Speaker 1: 23:13

how about this? How about I pick one from you, you pick one from me, and then we'll pick one that we both think we could agree and be like okay, yeah, that's a great one?

Speaker 2: 23:23

okay, the one okay, ladies, first kyle, ladies my memory is not gonna remember what you said. I'm kidding, come on no that, bro.

Speaker 1: 23:33

Okay, I like the trigger one. Okay, I think that is very helpful and we can definitely do an entire episode, if not more, just on that.

Speaker 2: 23:45

I like the first one you said You're supposed to say what it was.

Speaker 1: 23:48

again, which one was that, kyle?

Speaker 2: 23:49

You're supposed to say which one it was? Again, Tell me.

Speaker 1: 23:51

Kyle, which one was the first?

Speaker 2: 23:52

one. I said, that was a good joke Almost 30 minutes ago. We're talking about this so fast. I can't remember all the topics you said you talked about. I can't remember this stuff, bro.

Speaker 1: 24:10

We talked about the negative stuff. We talked about why it's important to talk. We talked about why over's important to talk. We talked about why over communicating is key. We talked about not communicating at all.

Speaker 2: 24:23

We talked about that cold shoulder that echoes into the one you said that you liked from me with the negative.

Speaker 1: 24:30

Uh, dang it the triggers like this the triggers.

Speaker 2: 24:35

yes, how do I not remember stuff that we just said 10 minutes ago?

Speaker 1: 24:40

Listen if I knew that answer, I wouldn't have as many white hairs on my head right now.

Speaker 2: 24:44

This is why you need communication, and the month of May will be dedicated to great communication. I feel like I need a notebook, like a marriage. I just need to walk around with it.

Speaker 1: 24:52

You- mean this notebook.

Speaker 2: 24:54

No no like a marriage. I just need to walk around with you, mean, this notebook. No, no, as a man, as a man who has to remember stuff like I need to just be like, yeah, she said that man, I I can't believe you just said that.

Speaker 1: 25:05

I cannot believe you just said that because I promise you during our first years of marriage being on the topic of anniversary, I definitely gave you a little silver notepad book, that like, flipped up with notepads with a tiny little pin to keep in there so that you could remember things. Do you even remember where that notepad is?

Speaker 2: 25:30

probably not, because it was 10 years ago I remember it, though it was, it was cool. I think the pen went dead. Like I used it, the pen went dead. They used to use it for blame it on the pen kyle sorry guys blame it on the pen.

Speaker 1: 25:42

Anyways, guys, we do have a lot of topics here. We are definitely going to go back and review what we are going to do, I think because you can't remember and I can't remember the rest of the topics. We should start with the triggers one okay we should start with that one next week and definitely talk about what um would stop you from communicating right, and then, once we get through the things that stop you from communicating, then we can open up the rest of the month with how to communicate.

Speaker 2: 26:13

So join us next week for communication. Say it like you mean it Triggers and pitfalls in communicating.

Speaker 1: 26:19

Oh, that was the one thing. Say it with your heart, your whole heart. You know letting your feelings come out. Remember that.

Speaker 2: 26:27

I said that that wasn't one.

Speaker 1: 26:28

you said I was trying to remember stuff.

Speaker 2: 26:30

you said Wow, I know I'm working on it, kind of.

Speaker 1: 26:35

Kind of.

Speaker 2: 26:35

I mean, how do I say I'm working on it when it just happened I didn't do anything to work on it yet I should have been taking notes through this episode. I didn't expect this episode to go like this.

Speaker 1: 26:44

What did you expect us to do?

Speaker 2: 26:46

I thought we were going to find one and be like, yes, and we just went into it for like another 30 minutes. Oh, oh it's all right. I think this episode was fun it was fun free, free flowing, and I think that a lot of good.

Speaker 1: 26:57

It's a very type b episode to get us out of the spring cleaning, which was like a bunch of random topics, and then to get back into structure we get out of spring cleaning.

Speaker 2: 27:06

We just make a mess again.

Speaker 1: 27:08

Communication that is how it is, you know every every what wednesday, you you clean the car with Jubilee.

Speaker 2: 27:15

Yeah, Every Friday it's already a mess.

Speaker 1: 27:19

And then by Sunday, when the kids are done, coming to and from church.

Speaker 2: 27:24

Oh my gosh.

Speaker 1: 27:25

Yep, it's terrible. We hope that in this mess, you will join us with your mess Whatever things that you have going on when you're like, wow, I really wish communication in this particular area would be better, would improve, would be enhanced in our relationship. I really sincerely hope that you would take that and you would bring it to the Love by Faith podcast this month, because we are going to start talking with our chest out. We're going to share things with our whole heart. We're going to be very vulnerable and transparent. There might be some stories there's definitely a couple stories that Kyle wanted to cliff hang for you guys that we will bring back, and we hope you join us for this ride.

Speaker 2: 28:08

It's going to be a good one. I think we've got a lot of good ideas coming out.

Speaker 1: 28:12

We definitely have great ideas in this that we will kind of flesh out as the month rolls on.

Speaker 2: 28:19

Yeah, man, let's pray for the people. Lord, we're grateful to be here, we're grateful to share, we're grateful to be vulnerable, we're grateful to communicate. Lord, may we be filled with your heart, filled with your love, filled with your message. I pray for the relationships, who are listening, who are working on growing, who are working on being better. I pray for their communication, I pray for their connection, I pray for their love. We give you the glory in Jesus's name, amen.

Speaker 1: 28:46

Amen. Thank you guys for tuning in, for listening, for watching. If you're on YouTube, be sure to like share. Took my line.

Speaker 2: 28:55

I was gonna say that you could do the next part make sure, if you're on spotify apple podcast, five star reviews, yes, tell them. Kyle and selena are great at understanding relationships and talking about that's better than chad gpt could have came up with that's right that's right thanks for being here for another episode of Love by Faith y'all.

Speaker 1: 29:18

We'll see you guys again next week.

Speaker 2: 29:26

Take care. You can't handle it when I'm freestyling.

Speaker 1: 29:30

I know.

Speaker 2: 29:32

I knew that was the answer. I don't like the freestyle.

Speaker 1: 29:40

It makes me very nervous and squirmy inside.

Speaker 2: 29:42

Do you get embarrassed by what I say?

Speaker 1: 29:43

No, I don't. I love when you just pop off at the mouth because it's the unexpected and people come for the Kyle. Okay, I feel like people come for the Kyle. Okay, I, I, I feel like people come for the Kyle. People like to hear the deep Selena, but they love to, they love and enjoy the Kyle and that's what makes this podcast so great.

Speaker 2: 30:05

I'm grateful If that's you, if you're here for the the Kyle air quotes nobody's watching you.

Speaker 1: 30:10

This is the uncredited. I'm grateful.

Speaker 2: 30:11

That's why I said air quotes, so they knew what I was doing.

Speaker 1: 30:13

Don't you have to leave, no we finished.

Speaker 2: 30:17

We did great today. The unstructured episode did great today.

Speaker 1: 30:21

Yes, wow, no, we definitely need a plan though. Yeah, it's cute to do every once in a while, just to keep it fresh.

Speaker 2: 30:31

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 30:31

But I can't. I can't be waking up like this. Well, I do wake up like this, but I need a firm topic.

Speaker 2: 30:37

I listen to a ton of sports radio. Yeah Right, and the worst time in sports radio is FC's award. The week after the baseball all-star game. Because?

Speaker 1: 30:49

then there's nothing else, there's just nothing.

Speaker 2: 30:50

There's like three days of nothing. Yeah, and this just reminds me of that Only three days of nothing in all the sports world.

Speaker 1: 31:02

Sorry, this is how it is.

Speaker 2: 31:04

Go Cavs, bro. Cavs brought the rock, let's go. They are yeah, okay, it's official, gotta go. Gotta go get some breakfast, apparently was your stomach just communicating? To you. My stomach was all about the calves. That was a big cheer for the calves alright, next week we'll see you next time.