LOVE, SEX, FLOWERS & CHOCOLATE: Reviving Withering Relationships | Love By Faith with Kyle & Selina Almodovar #062

This episode focuses on reviving withering relationships. Using the metaphor of flowers and plants as representations, Kyle and Selina emphasize the importance of nurturing, communication, and faith in love. 

Listeners are encouraged to assess their relationships, communicate openly, and seek God’s guidance for revitalization and healing. 

• Exploring the connection between flowers and relationships 
• Understanding the importance of communication in fixing issues 
• Creating a safe space for expressing feelings 
• The role of faith in navigating relationship challenges 
• Practical steps for couples to assess and improve their connection 
• Highlighting the need for patience and consistency in nurturing love

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Chapters

• 0:00 Relationship Reset
• 7:48 Relationship Rekindling and Growth
• 23:46 Building Blocks of Relationship Growth
• 32:50 Relationship Reset Workshop Planning

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Love, sex, flowers and chocolate. Yes, we've talked about love. We've talked about sex. We're here to talk about flowers. Yay, I want to share how I feel, but every time I do, you tell me why I'm wrong.

Speaker 2: 0:09

I think a lot of couples unfortunately see themselves as being cut and delivered in a package that looks great but deep down they know it's not going to last. We're not perfect people.

Speaker 1: 0:22

By any means.

Speaker 2: 0:23

But by trusting in God we learned what it takes to build a friendship.

Speaker 1: 0:27

A relationship.

Speaker 2: 0:29

And marriage that has stood the test of time.

Speaker 1: 0:32

With a keeping it real style. We're going to talk to you about everything.

Speaker 2: 0:36

Everything.

Speaker 1: 0:37

That we've been through.

Speaker 2: 0:38

Are going through.

Speaker 1: 0:39

And have overcome All by learning how to lean on God and each other.

Speaker 2: 0:48

In order to help you learn how to love by faith.

Speaker 1: 1:05

Yo, it's so fun. Happy podcast recording day. Happy podcast recording day. This week has been much better flow, so crazy than the last one. Yes, we just tried. I think we stuffed too much in, not our episode, but in our life. Yeah, we had too much going on that first half of February.

Speaker 2: 1:23

It's not like we planned it that way, like just kids and weather and sicknesses just kind of took over.

Speaker 1: 1:30

Right, it's the natural rhythm of things.

Speaker 2: 1:33

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 1:34

You know, I know we like to chit chat a little bit before we get into it.

Speaker 2: 1:38

A little teeny bit.

Speaker 1: 1:40

It's the perfect spot to lead into what we're talking about today.

Speaker 2: 1:44

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 1:47

Welcome to the podcast. We're in the february series love, sex, flowers and chocolate. Yes, we've talked about love. Yes, we talked about sex. Yes, we're here to talk about flowers yay, I love flowers it's funny because I was thinking about this, talking about flowers. Yes, we're talking about relationships and resetting our relationship. When our relationship is out of whack, we really want to see it bloom so we can take a step back, reset, get that soil right get that ground right and get to a new level of growth.

Speaker 2: 2:18

It's giving flowers to your spouse and it's planting flowers for your relationship.

Speaker 1: 2:24

That's right. Maybe Valentine's Day was awesome Everything went awesome to your spouse and it's planting flowers for your relationship that's right. Maybe valentine's day was awesome, everything went awesome, and you're like let's keep this ball rolling. Yes, we'll get into some of that today maybe valentine's day kind of sucked and you burn the steak it happens or you bought her the flowers that reminder of her old aunt who used to just not like every cleveland browns fan always says there's always.

Speaker 1: 2:44

Next year there's always next year there's always next year, guys, oh my gosh. So I want to talk to you about flowers okay, yeah more about plants okay, selena's a big plant.

Speaker 2: 2:57

I love house plants everywhere, all over the place. I try to sneak them in every chance I get they've invaded every space of my house.

Speaker 1: 3:04

I'm okay with it. They're great for the air.

Speaker 2: 3:06

They're great for for the beauty of the place to the point where I'm like we need more windows. Bro, what are you going to do about this problem that we have?

Speaker 1: 3:13

we don't need less plants we need more windows.

Speaker 2: 3:18

Yes, okay.

Speaker 1: 3:19

So I bring up that because, okay, what do flowers need?

Speaker 2: 3:23

oh, at the very least they need water.

Speaker 1: 3:28

Okay, sunlight right at the very least they're just gonna sit on the shelf with. And then you need a vase with water, okay.

Speaker 2: 3:35

They need a cup, okay I've grown plants out of pepsi cans okay, you know they need a lord they need a container to dwell in right they need the water, they need the light that's it at the very least at the very once you get into deep growth and deep nourishment, then you go into the soil, you go into fertilizer, you go into um shading areas. You know. You go into the chemistry and the ph balances of things, acidity and perfect, perfect.

Speaker 1: 4:04

Can I keep leading you in this thought? Okay yeah, have you ever had a plant that was just like a mess? Oh yeah, what does that look like?

Speaker 2: 4:11

Okay, so my grandmother I got this trait from my grandmother. She had plants everywhere all the time. When she passed away, we divided up the plants and everybody got to take a plant.

Speaker 1: 4:22

Okay.

Speaker 2: 4:22

And so I took a plant, but it was very malnourished, underwatered, it was very tangled up with a different plant.

Speaker 1: 4:31

Yeah, didn't it have like five plants in one?

Speaker 2: 4:33

container. Yeah, so it must've been like one of those funeral plants that just has the. I'm serious Like that's the only time you get a bunch of plants in one pot is probably one of those funeral plants and it was just tangled. Some were growing, some weren't. There was a lot of root rot which was overwatering. It was just really, really bad shape.

Speaker 1: 4:52

So what was the first step? The?

Speaker 2: 4:54

very first step I did was I took it apart you took it apart. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 4:57

You took it out of the dirt.

Speaker 2: 4:58

I took it out of the plant, the pot, I separated the plants, I cut off any dead limbs or weak roots. So good, um, I cleaned off the roots and then you put it in a new small if, depending on the size of the root ball yeah you put it in a you know a pot that's half an inch bigger than the root ball I hope all of you see where I'm going with this, because this is really perfect for resetting our relationship.

Speaker 1: 5:26

I'm interested in seeing where you're going with this. I have an office space in my house. My office is in the basement.

Speaker 1: 5:32

I love my office, but I don't love everything about my office. I am not the most organized person. I am definitely a just put it down when I'm done with it, not a put it back kind of person. Yes, and so it leads to this chaos, send prayers, environment in my office yes, and it bothers me. I don't like it, okay, I don't like the habit, but it just it organically happens, right, okay, because I don't do anything to stop it. I don't do anything to stop it. I don't do anything to fix it. I don't do anything to prevent it. When I catch I don't catch myself doing it Okay, and after three months of it being cleaned up, it's right back to where it started.

Speaker 2: 6:10

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 6:10

And so so much of this is like like a relationship, right? Okay, I'm sorry, my hands are going everywhere today, it's okay.

Speaker 2: 6:17

I don't know what's going on for it in a relationship.

Speaker 1: 6:25

Okay when they get to the point where they're overwhelmed with the mess. That is their relationship currently. Yes, right, what's their first step? Like we talked about, your first step with the plant was just to break it apart, figure out what's going on. What's the first step a couple's gonna do when they're feeling like this is out of sync and they gotta get like a bad step or like what's the right step what is the first correction step that a couple can take to get their relationship right?

Speaker 1: 6:43

talk, talk, talk. Communication, yeah, okay, all right, selena, we're going to role play.

Speaker 2: 6:48

Okay, I love role playing.

Speaker 1: 6:50

We got a messed up relationship. Okay, right, we need to talk.

Speaker 2: 6:53

Yes, can we talk.

Speaker 1: 6:58

Okay, Selena.

Speaker 2: 6:59

Yes.

Speaker 1: 6:59

I need to talk to you about our relationship.

Speaker 2: 7:01

Oh jeez, what now you?

Speaker 1: 7:02

about our relationship. Oh geez, what now? This is really. This really sucks lately. Tell me about it. See, I come home, I bring up something important and you just rolled your eyes.

Speaker 2: 7:10

I'm just I'm very upset you already. We should have had this talk months ago so how do we reset this? You tell me, because I've been telling you for months and you haven't picked up on what I was putting down time out of the role play here. I'm really good at role play?

Speaker 1: 7:25

no, you're not. You're not playing along at all.

Speaker 2: 7:27

Oh, I didn't know you're supposed to be the coach here.

Speaker 1: 7:32

Oh my bad okay what are we supposed to do with this, with this beat down relationship?

Speaker 2: 7:37

that's not how you start it. I wouldn't start it that way okay, so we're talking about communication.

Speaker 1: 7:42

How do you break the ice of that communication that we need to reset and repot? Let me talk about the role play.

Speaker 2: 7:48

That just happened. So you came at me and just straight up. Here's the problem. How are we going to fix it? Okay, as a real man approach here my head, like I've been hinting and dropping that we needed to fix it for a very long time. That's not a good way to approach it, because we're both saying, hey, there's a problem.

Speaker 2: 8:09

We need to fix it. Hey, there's a problem, we need to fix it. I think the best way to start a conversation like that, where you know there's an issue and you're trying to resolve that issue, is you have to be very open about, you have to be vulnerable, you have to be very open about how you're feeling regarding this situation. So if you were to have come at me and you were to have said instead Slana, I know that things aren't well between us and every time I think about it, it just really makes me upset, it really hurts, because I know that there's something between us that can solve this, and whether you've been trying to come at me to fix it, or whether I've been trying to do it at the wrong times, or I've tried and you didn't receive it, I love you too much to just let this fall to the wayside. I know that there are things that I've done and there are things that I've said and I'm not proud of it, and I do know now that enough is enough and I want to try to do something to make this work, by all means. I know where you're at and you're very angry, or you're upset, or you're afraid, or you're offended. And if talking to me is not the right way to go about this right now, then why don't we start with prayer and why don't we invite God into this conversation? Because I am just at my ends and I feel like we can do better.

Speaker 2: 9:41

I feel like this is not worth it. I feel like my heart is really heavy on this and I don't want to feel this. I don't want to carry this weight anymore. I feel like you see what I'm saying. So when you start bringing in your feelings, instead of just prepare man, let's go and fix the problem. Let's get to a place of ground zero and ground zero is vulnerable, but ground zero is transparent. And when I meet you at a disaster site, that's where we are. But if you're only you know, here's the blueprint let's start building without even checking out what ground zero looks like or feels like, or come into an agreement that we're ready to build together. Then you're going to constantly be at a distance, at a separation, because it's like you still don't hear me, you still don't feel me, you still don't acknowledge what's happening here. You're only trying to make it go away so that you can feel better.

Speaker 1: 10:36

It's like taking that mess of a plant and just keep watering it.

Speaker 2: 10:39

You're just like adding more dirt to the top of the plant, knowing there's root rot.

Speaker 1: 10:43

Yeah, All right, that's great. So we get in with the communication. Yeah, we're taking inventory of where we're at. Yes, right, you used a lot of I feel statements. Yes, that's so huge is just making it about your feelings? Because, guys never talk about their feelings.

Speaker 1: 11:00

We hold back on sharing our feelings or shut down that should probably be included in the conversation yes, I want to share how I feel, but every time I do, you tell me why I'm wrong, right, and so this is a great place to have five good minutes of. She's got a five minute timer everything she needs to say. He's got a five minute timer everything he wants to say. Right, to get this reset going. And then, even ahead of this, they each have have a homework of what they feel is wrong, like a list what what's what's going wrong, and then another section that says what's going right and then another section that says what I'm willing to do to fix it that's a lot of homework I know, but it's.

Speaker 1: 11:47

It's a great handout for the playbook oh, okay but doing those, taking that inventory, yeah, is a huge first step to like yeah it a it gets rid of the root rot right. B it it's accountability and ownership yeah of, hey, I did this wrong, right. And then c its vision for what it looks like together. Yes, as a couple. Yes, and you can, you take, take steps forward.

Speaker 2: 12:11

I I like what you said before. This part is that we need to, as couples, we need to practice and embrace having space for feelings. Yeah you know, repair mode or go into what can be done better next time mode, but, like, let's just create the space and hold space for how you do feel, you know, as a husband, without me commenting or correcting or defending my reason for why your emotions are invalid in my eyes. You know we need to practice. Everyone does us included.

Speaker 1: 12:52

Us included.

Speaker 2: 12:53

I feel like we need to just practice holding that space and just allowing you to feel that in a safe space where you're not going to be judged and you're not going to be corrected, so that once we feel that and we do feel validated in what our because feelings are feelings there's no right or wrong feeling. What you feel is what it is. There's no yes or no to that. There's no right or wrong feeling. What you feel is what it is. There's no yes or no to that. There's no right or wrong. So to have that space, I think creates a better place of acceptance, to then have that motivation to move forward and then we can do what you're saying.

Speaker 1: 13:25

Love it. That is awesome, awesome stuff to work full circle there awesome stuff.

Speaker 2: 14:45

Yeah to, to work full circle there so we just went through a whole analogy of repotting plants.

Speaker 2: 14:48

Okay, because this the the plant looked bad. It probably smelled bad. When you took it out of the pot, you noticed that the roots were rotten, and those are all really great references to a relationship that needs a major reset. Right, like that was your point, yeah, was. We are trying to use this analogy to say, like, sometimes your relationship looks bad on the surface and sometimes there are dying roots underneath the surface that we need to look at and take apart, and sometimes you need to put your relationship into a completely different new environment, that being the new pot. You know, sometimes you need to nourish it a little more, that being the soil and no matter what it needs. The water and the sunlight to me would represent God's light and God's living. You know, like there's, there's ways to do that, but when I think about flowers, okay.

Speaker 2: 15:39

Flowers can be in one or two places.

Speaker 1: 15:43

Okay.

Speaker 2: 15:44

Flowers can be in a garden where you're growing and nourishing much like the pot analogy. But then sometimes flowers get cut and given.

Speaker 1: 15:52

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 15:53

Okay, yeah, and so what ends up happening with flowers that are cut and given is they tend to die?

Speaker 1: 15:58

Okay, even though you put them in water. Even though you put them in water, even though you put them in water.

Speaker 2: 16:03

You give them the light, you give them a little packet of food.

Speaker 1: 16:06

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 16:07

So I think there are a lot of couples out there who do not see themselves as flowers that are in a garden.

Speaker 1: 16:15

Okay.

Speaker 2: 16:16

I think a lot of couples unfortunately see themselves as being cut and delivered in a package that looks great but deep down they know it's not going to last.

Speaker 1: 16:29

Wow, wow Okay.

Speaker 2: 16:32

So for couples who need a reset completely, yeah.

Speaker 2: 16:37

Because I think as long as you are rooting your relationship in Christ, you will always be abiding, you will always be a part of his vine, you will always be a part of the garden. I don't necessarily think that you would be cut and therefore passed off. And there are couples who realize it's not working for them and then they peacefully part ways working for them and then they, peacefully, you know, part ways. But what can we tell couples who feel like they have no root system because they were plucked and now they see themselves going the opposite way?

Speaker 1: 17:13

so they're just growing apart growing apart, dying apart, yes, yeah, I think it goes back to just. I think it goes back to rekindling that fire, going back to the basics the abcs of it go on a date talk what are the abcs? I mean like in the the basics, very basic, very basics. I don't have a, an acronym or anything yeah but just the basics of an acronym or anything. Yeah, but just the basics of talk. Go for a walk, like call her on the phone on your ride as like talking to guys here yeah, hold her hand somewhere, you know, yeah.

Speaker 1: 17:52

And to the girls, if, if you're not about holding hands, like, go out of your comfort zone a little, just a hair, just a hair, yeah, you know. Yeah, find a show that you guys like, right, find a show to, as I know there's time, and then blah, blah, blah. Quit making excuses, yeah, to put some time in together, right.

Speaker 2: 18:13

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 18:14

You guys are both here. Just because you're worried about it not working doesn't mean that that's going to come to happen. God has a plan and a purpose for your marriage, for your relationship. He brought you guys together for a reason.

Speaker 2: 18:26

Amen.

Speaker 1: 18:26

Right yeah, and though it may feel far off, the more you put into those time, communication, energy, finding a hobby to share, finding a, like I said, just go for walks.

Speaker 2: 18:40

That's such a easy thing to get 10 minutes of back and forth it reminds me of and I'm dating myself here because some people like it, some people don't. We love it. It reminds me of the broadway musical hamilton okay okay, yeah, where? Um, for those of you guys who don't know about Hamilton, his son died.

Speaker 1: 19:02

Spoiler alert.

Speaker 2: 19:03

And well, they should see it. By now, his son passed and he just cheated on his wife. His wife was done completely. Don't talk to me. I'm removing myself from your narrative. You cannot write about me anymore. I'm burning everything you ever had written about me.

Speaker 1: 19:19

Like it's, we're done.

Speaker 2: 19:27

Yeah, but they started going on walks. Yeah, he started walking by himself and then she started joining him and they would not talk because they were both depressed about the sunday they're both depressed and it was just the way that their life was turning into. You know they were. They thought they were at this pinnacle and they fell. Far yeah and hard, and so she started going on these walks with him. Didn't talk to him.

Speaker 1: 19:45

Okay.

Speaker 2: 19:46

Didn't bring up the situation, but they walked, they walked and, slowly but surely, walking and being present with each other, yeah, started to soften the heart. I think it was just like you're saying, just that commitment to I'm going to walk by your side. I'm not going to talk to you yet, I'm not going to share with you yet, I'm not going to invite you into myself yet, but I'm committed enough to walk by your side and to see where it goes let's go, I'll walk my no, that was just such a such a great way to.

Speaker 1: 20:34

I just felt so encouraged and so connected to you when you were saying that wow I could feel the love in your voice and that commitment to just do something is huge. It goes back to the. We want the best for this relationship no matter where it's at, no matter our worst day, no matter what long-term. I want to work together to make this work.

Speaker 2: 20:55

I really feel in my heart right now that there are Christian couples out there who feel sincerely like there is no other way but to leave this thing. There is no other way but to split. The Bible teaches us that there are reasons why a divorce would be acceptable. There's assault why a divorce would be acceptable. There's assault, there's idols, there's adultery and then idolatry. If you're putting things before your marriage or if you're making them turn away from God, then there's grounds for that.

Speaker 2: 21:35

But for everything else, I believe that there is a way to get back to a better foundation. There is a way to get back to Christ healing it. God is bigger than the problem. God is bigger than the issue and we have to walk in that faith, knowing that he could do the impossible. That's right. And even if the impossible looks like your marriage situation, he can still turn those flowers into a blooming season. That's right.

Speaker 2: 22:09

He can still sprout them out and, you know, go from there. I know you see. You see, there are flower patches, there are. You know, a flower can grow out of anywhere, Okay, yep, it can grow out of anywhere. Okay, it can grow out of the middle of a crack, it can grow out of a sidewalk.

Speaker 2: 22:25

It can grow out of any kind of dry dirt, Even in the desert. The flowers will grow on the cactus if the Lord allows it and makes it so. So the flowers that you can give doesn't necessarily have to be the end all be all. I think it's just do you have the faith? Do you believe, like, do you want it? You know, because a lot of the times they're just like I don't want this, I'm out.

Speaker 2: 22:50

You know, are you putting your wants ahead of what you can do to fix things? And have faith that God can fix things? Because I believe that God will bring people together for a greater good. There's a reason why God brings this man and this woman together for a greater purpose.

Speaker 2: 23:10

There's something that's going to come out of them being one versus them being two individuals, and so if you try to remove that, if you try to sever that union because you just don't want it anymore, because it's just too hard anymore, then you really got to do a heart check and ask yourself am I doing this for my own will or am I doing this because God is calling me to this? Am I being obedient and having faith that we can make this work for God's glory, or am I choosing to have my own way and I'm going to take matters into my own hands? Where does that stand? And again I said before, if there's an abuse or if there's an assault, or if there's something that is putting you in danger and you have to leave, by all means, please do what you need to do to keep yourself safe and to keep yourself focused on God.

Speaker 2: 24:04

But for everything else, all those little tit for tats, all those little inconsistencies, all those little frustrations, all of those things for a man and a woman, you got to look at this from a God's point of view. What is God trying to do within both of you and what is the enemy fighting really hard to do to rip you apart?

Speaker 1: 24:27

Yeah, I couldn't have said it better myself. Selena, you're asking so many good questions there that I just it's just the perfect. It's just the perfect way to take inventory on it.

Speaker 2: 24:38

It's just. God created marriage in the Garden of Eden. Of course it's supposed to bloom, of course it's supposed to recreate, of course it's meant to be in a garden and we have to be mindful of God's plan. And it doesn't always look easy and it's not always roses and rainbows, but there's something there and we have to trust in it as husband and wife when we were at our lowest point and I went in middle early 2020 yeah and we were struggling and not really I wouldn't say we didn't like each other, but we were just frustrated and just to the point where it was just everything was just a.

Speaker 1: 25:21

I wouldn't say we didn't like each other, but we were just frustrated and just to the point where everything was just a job, everything was just work. We were able to just pause. We paused ministry, we paused friendships, we paused our hobbies. Yeah, social media. We just looked at each other. Yeah, we removed all of the distractions, put that time into each other, and that was what it took for us to reset this relationship and to get this thing right.

Speaker 2: 25:58

Amen.

Speaker 1: 25:58

And that's I encourage you guys. All that is what I would tell any guy is strip away all the frilly stuff. Strip it away. Get down to the roots. Yeah, Get down to the foundation. Build back good habits, good soil, and make it work. You want it to work, you can make it work.

Speaker 2: 26:20

So to kind of go back to your analogy of the plant, yeah.

Speaker 2: 26:23

After I separated that plant and we took care of the roots and I potted it and I gave it the best light of the house that the house could offer, this plant started to take off. Let's go. These leaves were flourishing and then, out of nowhere, the lilies started blooming out of this plant Three, four at a time per stalk, and to this day it is my biggest plant. I never seen the plant so big. When I was going to my grandmother's house my whole childhood I never knew this is what she had. She probably never knew this is what she had because it wasn't given the right amount of care and treatment that it could have had and the flowers came out of a plant you know, and it was.

Speaker 2: 27:09

It was a. It was a surprising thing, because I was never expecting to see flowers come out of this plant, you know. And so wherever you guys are in your relationship, wherever you guys are struggling with, just focus on the nourishment. Focus on making sure that there is constant light, being the Lord that's right Pouring into that relationship, pouring into that specific area of your relationship that you guys are struggling with. Make sure that you are nourishing it.

Speaker 2: 27:41

The way Kyle said, remove and strip away any of the things that do not give your particular relationship the light and the strength and the nourishment that it needs. If there is something trying to take out, you know prune. It's just like the Bible said prune the things right. When you prune things, sometimes you're pruning flowers, sometimes you're pruning leaves and you're pruning stuff because you want to make sure that all of that energy is getting poured into the right place, the right path, and so when you prune it all and you do that, you have no idea what kind of flowers will come out of that as a result. You have no idea what kind of flowers your relationship can bloom as a result that's great.

Speaker 1: 28:25

We've hit a whole bunch of stuff in this episode.

Speaker 2: 28:28

It's a heavy episode it was a heavy episode but we want to bring it real.

Speaker 1: 28:32

We want to bring it so that you guys have building blocks, you guys have tangible things, yes, that that are going to help you, that are going to help your relationship flower in due season, right? The only thing I you didn't say is that it takes time. Yeah, that flower didn't pop out the next week. Flower didn't pop out the next month.

Speaker 2: 28:53

It was like a solid six to eight months Seasons For a plant guys Seasons. Right A plant.

Speaker 1: 28:59

And so you guys didn't get to a place where you needed to reset or rebuild in one season. It's going to take time. It's going to take the time you got to be extra patient. I know I've seen you with plants that you're growing roots on and it takes weeks just for the littlest root to pop out of that plant that you're trying to.

Speaker 2: 29:18

Yep.

Speaker 1: 29:19

And so it will be the same in your relationship. It's not going to be a one day thing.

Speaker 2: 29:24

I'm going to go ahead and call it out right now. It's going to take. It might take longer than a year. It might take longer than two years. A lot of people they use that year timeline and they're like, well, it's been so long, it's still not working. It might be longer. Okay, Like, let's just put it out there it might be longer. Are you willing to wait that long? Is it worth it to wait that long?

Speaker 1: 29:46

40 years in the desert man, God can do anything.

Speaker 2: 29:48

God can do anything.

Speaker 1: 29:49

That's right. I think we're at a great spot to pray for our couples, pray for our listeners.

Speaker 2: 29:55

Yes, you just seem so on fire today. I want you to pray for the couples and get us out of here. Okay, yes, amen, lord, we thank you for giving us the flowers of the earth, because they are daily reminders of what it takes to plant, to sow, to nourish, to have faith, to have patience and to see your fruits come out of it. Lord, we pray that, as we look all around us and we see flowers everywhere we go, that you will remind us to remain steadfast and to remain faithful and to remain hopeful in the relationships that are out there today.

Speaker 2: 30:42

We pray, father God, that you will help people meet at the ground zero that they're at, that they would be willing to hold space for their feelings, for their fears, for their vulnerabilities. Lord, I pray that you would come into that space and that you would pull out any rotten roots that are trying to bring this relationship down. I pray that you would pull out any rotten roots that are trying to bring this relationship down. I pray that you would give them the right environment that they need to build each other up. And, father God, I pray that in due season, in due season, these relationships will reap a harvest, will reap a blooming season of floral pleasures that only you can provide. We lean on you, we trust in you, we hope in you and we pray that you would bless all of the couples who are listening and watching this episode right now, that they would receive your power and your glory all over their relationship.

Speaker 1: 31:38

In Jesus's name Amen. Amen, amen, thanks for being here. We got another episode in the books.

Speaker 2: 31:45

Yay.

Speaker 1: 31:49

Love sex. Flowers and chocolate series. Next week is chocolate. Yes Come back for dessert. Yes, we'll be here, we'll be ready. We personally, we're looking forward to Selena's birthday. Yes, this week, next week. Oh, we personally were looking forward to Selena's birthday this week.

Speaker 2: 32:02

Can't wait. It's gonna be.

Speaker 1: 32:05

Selena's birthday this week is gonna be so good.

Speaker 2: 32:07

I can't wait.

Speaker 1: 32:08

I hope that you love all your birthday presents. I hope that you love your birthday cake. I hope that your birthday Is just a blast Beyond all things. My birthday is actually me blooming Into A new era let's go I'm, I'm ready we'll see you next time on the podcast bye, bye, take care I tried to say birthday like 75 times why.

Speaker 2: 32:41

For fun, that's fun. That's good man that was. I didn't think that this episode would be that deep.

Speaker 1: 32:50

Relationship reset, bro. That's a big one, man.

Speaker 2: 32:52

I know, I know, but still I just I had so many more notes.

Speaker 1: 32:57

This could be a class. Yeah, relationship reset is a good.

Speaker 2: 33:01

That would be a great workshop. Yeah, that would be a great workshop to do. And then I can make all the floral graphics that is so good okay, I see wheels turning it is.

Speaker 1: 33:12

It was a good one.

Speaker 2: 33:13

Obviously it was powerful man because we talked about what it looks like and we talked about why it gets there, how you know how it gets there, but then you have to talk about the practical of like, and we talked about why it gets there, how it gets there, but then you have to talk about the practical of how do we?

Speaker 1: 33:25

How do we facilitate this? How do we set the garden?

Speaker 2: 33:27

How do we set the plants? How do we nurture the flowers?

Speaker 1: 33:31

So good man.

Speaker 2: 33:33

Amen.

Speaker 1: 33:33

Grateful to God.

Speaker 2: 33:34

Be on the lookout for that. Let's go. Am I going to get lots of chocolate for my birthday Am? I going to get lots of chocolate for my birthday. No comment.

Speaker 1: 33:45

I can't wait. No, I got to go.

Speaker 2: 33:47

I'm tired of you saying it first Kyle, I got things to do. No, you're not going to leave me on this couch by myself. You do this every week.

Speaker 1: 33:56

Good day to you.