LOVE, SEX, FLOWERS & CHOCOLATE: Creating Meaningful Valentine's Traditions | Love By Faith with Kyle & Selina Almodovar #060

For couples, February is typically all about love, sex, flowers, and chocolate. In this episode, dive into this season, helping couples create meaningful Valentine's traditions. 

Join us in an all-new series, "Love, Sex, Flowers & Chocolate" as we embrace a new kind of love this Valentine's Day by moving past commercial gestures. Learn how to love intentionally through understanding personal love languages and creating personal traditions that deepen your connection.

• Importance of personalization in gifts
• Exploring love languages for deeper connections
• Shifting traditions from consumerism to personalized celebrations
• Tips for planning quality moments on Valentine’s Day
• Crafting meaningful gestures that resonate with your partner
• The role of communication in understanding love needs
• Creating your own Valentine’s traditions
• Practical ways to celebrate love beyond conventional norms

Thank you for tuning in! Be sure to download our free "Holiday of Love" handout to help guide your Valentine’s Day plans!

Chapters

• 0:00 Valentine's Day, Love, and Birthday Celebrations
• 2:28 The Love Week Challenge
• 12:33 Personalized Valentine's Day Traditions
• 22:57 Intentional Love Language Communication

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Love sex, flowers and chocolate. Love sex, flowers and chocolate, so it's just buy the flowers and the chocolate and have the sex.

Speaker 2: 0:06

No, is that the deal, jeez?

Speaker 1: 0:08

What is the biggest way that women need love on Valentine's Day?

Speaker 2: 0:11

Do what you got to do to figure this out. Rewind it, write it down. Do what you got to do. We're not perfect people.

Speaker 1: 0:17

By any means.

Speaker 2: 0:19

But by trusting in God we learned what it takes to build a friendship a relationship and marriage that has stood the test of time.

Speaker 1: 0:28

With a Keeping it Real style. We're going to talk to you about everything everything that we've been through are going through and have overcome All by learning how to lean on God and each other, in order to help you learn how to love by faith. Good morning, good morning. February is here. Yes, we're on the podcast again Finally. February let's go.

Speaker 2: 1:04

I love.

Speaker 1: 1:04

February, february is here. Yes, we're on the podcast again. Finally, february, let's go.

Speaker 2: 1:05

I love February. February is so awesome. It's just one big month of self-care.

Speaker 1: 1:11

Why Selena why?

Speaker 2: 1:12

Because it's my birthday.

Speaker 1: 1:14

Birthday month, February. Can you get all the? It's the shortest month of the year. Yeah, unfortunately, At least your birthday is not like February 28ary 28th.

Speaker 2: 1:26

You gotta wait to the end dude it's 24th, like same thing close enough yes, but still I like to. I like to treat myself all month long. I'm one of those people that celebrate all month long sure, sure you are, I mean, I know yeah but I mean, I know there's a lot of people I've met who are the same way.

Speaker 1: 1:43

Like it, it's my birthday month, like. I'm going out for my birthday.

Speaker 2: 1:46

For my birthday month?

Speaker 1: 1:47

yes, Celebrating me.

Speaker 2: 1:48

Yes and so, because my birthday is at the end of the month, it's like a big crescendo.

Speaker 1: 1:53

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 1:54

And so it just starts off small, Like, oh, I'm going to treat myself to coffee, and then, oh, I'm about to go ahead and hang out with my friends, and it's my birthday, and I do it all at the same time, and it's great.

Speaker 1: 2:06

Anything uh special this month that you're thinking about?

Speaker 2: 2:10

Uh, what do you mean?

Speaker 1: 2:13

Well, with your birthday coming up, you got any, uh, you got any big plans going?

Speaker 2: 2:17

Uh, no, not too much, just hanging out, taking it easy. Okay, it easy.

Speaker 1: 2:27

okay, put your feet up, catch up on some uh, some some netflix. You want me to say it and I'm not gonna say it. I'm not gonna say anything you want. I don't want anything.

Speaker 2: 2:31

I have no agenda here you do my agenda is to entertain me into this trap and I can feel it welcome to february, folks.

Speaker 1: 2:39

We have a brand new series for you you can't just cut them off. Sure I can. You don't want to give it? I'm not gonna pry it, we're not gonna talk about it.

Speaker 2: 2:47

We're not gonna talk about it. When the time is right, it'll come out fine, you just have to keep tuning in all february to figure out what we're talking about brand new month, brand new series.

Speaker 1: 2:58

Yay this series this is gonna be a fun series, I think it's one that's, for us, is, I think, it's easy to talk about, absolutely, it's got a lot of stuff we can get into. Yes, a lot of experience. Yes, bad and good. Yes, this month, february, we wanted to talk about love. Yes, flowers no, chocolate, no. Okay, I was messing, I was messing.

Speaker 2: 3:26

I know what it is. What is it? Love sex flowers and chocolate. Love sex flowers and chocolate. The four top things that everyone always thinks about when they roll into the month of February.

Speaker 1: 3:31

Really.

Speaker 2: 3:31

Absolutely, and especially since we just came out of such a heavy topic like Holy Spirit from January.

Speaker 1: 3:39

But February is when the Super Bowl is.

Speaker 2: 3:41

Jeez, Kyle, he always does this. Guys, Please get on him. He talks about the Super Bowl. He talks about Daytona 500. He talks about the NBA All-Star Weekend. All of these things take place in February. I think men did this on purpose, because they don't want to get to the root of love sex flowers and chocolate.

Speaker 2: 4:08

So it's just buy the flowers and the chocolate and have the sex, no geez. Okay, guys, we're gonna take this week by week. We're gonna break everything down as to why these things matter, why they're so evident in this month, and how we're gonna help you love by faith through each of these topics and, of course, how they're scripturally and relationally relevant absolutely so, kyle. Where do we go from here?

Speaker 1: 4:25

good morning. This week we're talking about love, the love week. We talked about doing the love week during valentine's, like putting it out right before valentine's, but I thought putting it week one, because love comes first first comes love.

Speaker 1: 4:39

Yes, right, yes putting it out now, you'll be able to plan for when it is valentine's day. When you get there, you'll be able to plan for when it is Valentine's Day. When you get there, you'll be able to be ready. So you can use this episode to boost, to get a head start, to be prepared, so you're not behind the eight ball when it's time to actually enjoy Valentine's Day. That's right, right, right. And so we're talking about loving intentionally, doing Valentine's Day intentionally, yes, and creating just an intentionality around it, because the world makes so much of it for the things I like Christmas, the things, the chocolate, the flowers, the gifts, the jewelry. You'll see all the jewelry stores having all their commercials.

Speaker 2: 5:15

Oh yeah.

Speaker 1: 5:16

All their ads all month long.

Speaker 2: 5:17

All the engagement proposal commercials.

Speaker 1: 5:20

Oh, engagement proposal season Trying to force you into a situation you're not prepared for trying to force you into a situation you're not prepared for Right. But we're here to recenter refocus on love, refocus on two people who love God, and by loving God they love each other, and by loving each other they love God more. They show the world God's love through their faith and connection together. Selena.

Speaker 2: 5:39

Yes.

Speaker 1: 5:40

You've coached women for a long time.

Speaker 2: 5:41

Yes.

Speaker 1: 5:42

You've done Valentine's Day specials, valentine's Day talks, all the things Valentine's.

Speaker 2: 5:49

Galentine's.

Speaker 1: 5:50

Right Galentine's stuff.

Speaker 2: 5:53

Yes.

Speaker 1: 5:54

What is the biggest thing that women how do I say this? What is the biggest way that women need love on Valentine's Day? Coming from a married woman's perspective.

Speaker 2: 6:03

From a wife.

Speaker 1: 6:04

Yeah, talk to the guys here. What do we? How do we love you intentionally on Valentine's Day and still be able to watch Super Bowl?

Speaker 2: 6:11

oh wow, that's how we feel. I would think for wives, how guys, how their husbands can love them on Valentine's Day. First, and I would think, romance consideration, because a lot of the times people don't value the actual holiday. They think of it as a hallmark holiday. This is a fake holiday, it's not a real holiday. Why should I care about it?

Speaker 2: 6:40

And they toss it off or they put very little consideration into it yeah which then leads to a very big dud yeah where they're still expecting to get into the sheets afterwards like hello, you're still expecting to get something, even though you claim it's not a holiday and you don't celebrate it. So I feel like for wives um, we just want you guys to be considerate and if you're going to like, we want to be celebrated, we want to be romanticized and I know we talked about this in previous episodes we want to be pursued, we want to feel desired, and so not just necessarily making it all about sex which we'll talk about in the next episodes.

Speaker 2: 7:21

But we want to also feel pretty and worthy and desirable and loved. We want to feel loved and so, however, you know your wife to be loved. However she desires to be loved, that is what she would love to receive on Valentine's Day.

Speaker 1: 7:43

Okay, so I'm a husband husband. I know my wife yeah she, her love language is gifts yes, okay, yes so I'm gonna it's valentine's day. I'm gonna go buy her some gifts. I'm gonna buy her some flowers. Yes, I'm gonna buy her one of those little heart shaped boxes of chocolate.

Speaker 2: 8:00

Yes, just the little one, because I'm trying to watch my weight and then valentine's day is done and I can watch highlights no.

Speaker 1: 8:06

Was I romantic? Though I was romantic, I bought your stuff. No, you're doing, I just did your love language. How is that not romantic?

Speaker 2: 8:13

Because those are the common things. Those are the common things. Those are very. It's not okay, that's the general.

Speaker 1: 8:20

You could have did that while waiting in line to pay for gas all the guys were getting red faced with me because we just did what you said.

Speaker 2: 8:27

We followed your love language done that at the gas station you could have saw, could have been at line at the checkout site. Oh, there's flowers here. Oh, there's candy here. Perfect, I'm done that. Where's the consideration? I bought stuff that's the bare minimum of consideration. Like I told, love me the way I want to be loved. So, yes, these are gifts, but these are typical Hallmark gifts. If we want to take this away from the Hallmark consumer holiday, you have to make it personal.

Speaker 2: 8:57

So how are these flowers personal to me? If it was a kind, a different kind of flower bouquet and not just your average six roses for $27. Okay, Because we know they hike up the prices right, they hike the prices up, yeah. It's already a hard struggle just to find affordable things.

Speaker 1: 9:14

Okay.

Speaker 2: 9:14

So if you're going to go out of your way to buy me a very personal flower bouquet, yeah, I'll be like oh wow, these are. Wow, you have my heart now because you went out of your way to consider how to love me personally, not just how to love me consumerly, if that is a word.

Speaker 1: 9:31

Fair enough, we'll let it be. It's a podcast, save me with the chocolate.

Speaker 2: 9:34

You're giving me a small little thing of chocolate. We all know what's in the chocolates. You don't know what you're going to get. They're variety or whatever. How is this personal to me? How is this personal to me? Okay, how are you making it personal? Is there even a card attached to this? Did you even sign your name? Did you even say any words when you delivered this? What about the delivery? What about the approach? Or did you just leave it on the kitchen counter and you're just like she'll find it, and then you walk away and then you're expecting to get some butt. Like what is it, tell me? Like, how is this personal and how are you considering these things?

Speaker 1: 10:05

I think all the guys are taking a deep breath right here.

Speaker 2: 10:08

Do what you got to do to figure this out, rewind it, write it down, do what you got to do. I'm dropping gems over here.

Speaker 1: 10:15

So this is why we're starting this early, right.

Speaker 2: 10:16

Yes.

Speaker 1: 10:17

So we can plan ahead right.

Speaker 2: 10:18

There you go.

Speaker 1: 10:18

So, me being how I am, my instinct, what are we going to do for Valentine's Day? What do you want for Valentine's Day? And get a feel for what you really want for Valentine's Day. Yes, so, selena, what do you want for Valentine's Day?

Speaker 2: 10:37

So Kyle and I have gone through Valentine's Day now for what? 14 years this?

Speaker 1: 10:42

will be yeah.

Speaker 2: 10:44

Our 14th Valentine's Day. 14th Valentine's Day, wow, so back in the day. What's up, dude? Yeah?

Speaker 1: 10:48

What's up, dude? Yeah, 14 years 14.

Speaker 2: 10:49

on the 14th, let's go.

Speaker 1: 10:50

Wow, my mom would love that.

Speaker 2: 10:53

So back in the day we used to do the general Valentine's Day thing. What do you generally do? You go out for dinner, right, we go out for dinner, but what ends up happening? Statistics show that Valentine's Day is, I believe, the number two top restaurant outing event in the whole year what mother's day number one mother's day is number one, valentine's day is number two, father's day is number three, and so everybody is out.

Speaker 2: 11:20

You know, and you will wait for hours to get a reservation. If you not have, if you haven't already booked your reservation now, which ps? This is coming out the very first week of february. Get them reservations in, if you're, if that's your route, if that's where you decide to go, if that's what you guys communicated about. I came to the plan of this is what you want to do.

Speaker 2: 11:37

Go ahead and do it if there's a restaurant she's been talking about. Right, go ahead and book that right now, before she talks about it again. Okay, get it. Get five steps ahead of her. So then we used to go and we would get into the restaurant and we would wait for hours for our food to come out and I would be, because they're so busy.

Speaker 1: 11:53

You could be so angry after work and then we're trying to get romantic and I'm just like bro, I just want to eat all the stress I'm getting in and getting out this mess.

Speaker 2: 12:02

So we decided kyle and I we were going to when we got married. We decided we're just going to order chinese takeout and we're going to watch romantic movie. So we're going to pick romantic comedy movie, okay.

Speaker 1: 12:16

Yes, okay, listen how this evolves. I love this. Keep going.

Speaker 2: 12:19

We're going to pick romantic comedy movie we're going to watch and we're going to just be romantic at home.

Speaker 1: 12:24

Okay.

Speaker 2: 12:25

We're going to have our Chinese and we're going to do that Just enjoy it.

Speaker 1: 12:28

Put on the candles on the coffee table Exactly what we did. Sit by the TV watch the movie we made it our own thing.

Speaker 2: 12:33

So what ended up happening was it was my turn to pick. I was picking the romantic comedy. I didn't know what to pick. I was scrolling. This was before Netflix was really big because this was back in 2013, 2014. Netflix was still mailing DVDs to everybody Right, it still wasn't as big as like you can stream any movie from anywhere right so I'm picking, I'm trying to find a movie and I find one. I believe it had like a pink hotel and the title was grand budapest hotel yes I had no idea what this movie was about.

Speaker 2: 13:04

So I'm like, okay, pink hotel, grand budapest hotel, sounds like a funny rom-com, take it home. I don't know. I don't know what this movie I still don't I don't remember I don't know what the movie was about yeah but it was a crazy, just independent movie and we were, that's just what we did. So very next year we're like okay, we're gonna keep doing this. I bombed the first movie. Kyle, you picked the movie, oh my gosh, yes you picked the movie.

Speaker 2: 13:32

We get our chinese same thing because we we liked that part of the holiday. We were like this works for us right we're gonna keep doing it, only kyle's. We made small adjustment. Kyle picked a movie called I believe it was lobster the lobster the lobster, another independent film.

Speaker 1: 13:49

It was about finding romance and uh like, um, I don't remember what it was like a hotel and in like a, it was like a vacay. It was like a sci-fi movie right, it was a sci-fi independent film and it was about finding love, and if the love connection didn't work, you still got to be regenerated into an animal.

Speaker 2: 14:13

I'm not gonna, not gonna, uh, spoil it, but it was it was crazy, it was a goofy we were like independent film, eating our general sows and spare ribs like what the f are we watching on valentine's day? So this is on this. Honestly, this has become our tradition. Yeah, this is what we do, and now, because we have kids, it works out in our favor, because we just eat Chinese at home. We're not making reservations, we're not going out, we don't have to find a sitter. We can watch this crazy independent movie by ourselves and enjoy our company together and not have the stress of wondering how do you celebrate valentine's day with kids and still have energy to pour into each other?

Speaker 1: 14:58

yeah, so that's what we do so all that ties together in that we planned out what works for us yes, right, and now that we have kids it's evolved a little bit yes we, we may not watch a movie because the kids. We gotta wait till the kids are in bed to have one-on-one time. But we still get to. We still get the chinese takeout yes we still we'll get to.

Speaker 1: 15:18

Maybe we'll watch a, watch an episode of something funny. Yes, watch a stand-up special that's like an hour long. Yes, we're not watching a whole movie, but we've communicated, we've figured out what works for us how to show each other love, right? We've personalized valentine's day one of the things you said earlier that I wanted to go back to yes is you talked about.

Speaker 1: 15:37

You said that's not romantic yes and I thought I was being romantic by buying flowers and chocolate, right. So to be romantic is to get deeper. I mean, get deeper than flowers and chocolate, right, right.

Speaker 2: 15:50

From a guy. Not necessarily From a guy's perspective, not necessarily Because Just make it personal.

Speaker 1: 15:54

But okay, so don't just buy the grocery store flowers. Go to the flower shop, find the flowers she likes, find some unique flowers.

Speaker 2: 16:02

Listen. Put the card and then what Go to the fancy chocolate store and bring back a better chocolate than Listen. Just being personal does not equal being expensive.

Speaker 1: 16:11

Okay.

Speaker 2: 16:11

Okay, I have been sending. I'm calling you out.

Speaker 1: 16:15

Go ahead.

Speaker 2: 16:15

I've been sending you Go ahead I can take it.

Speaker 2: 16:18

I've been sending you reels on Instagram of people going to Trader Joe's buying $10 bouquets and combining them to make a personalized bouquet that would cost you no more than $30. If you don't have $30, start with the 10, start with the 20 and pick things that are personal. Okay, same thing with the chocolates. If you're going to buy chocolates, make them personal. If your person does not like flowers, don't you dare come back with flowers. If your person is not into chocolate and they would rather have like gummy bears, you better get that gummy bear.

Speaker 1: 16:54

And it ties back into communication and knowing how to love your person the way they want to be loved. So, what if? Okay, we talked about gifts, so my love language is touch Absolutely. I get a back rub, foot rub.

Speaker 2: 17:07

No, I make our touching time personal. I don't just be like, okay, I guess it's time to just roll over now. Let's get this over with.

Speaker 1: 17:16

Okay.

Speaker 2: 17:17

Okay, let's dim the lights. Here we go, like I make it very personal, I make you feel wanted, I make you feel valued. Look at your blushing Stop.

Speaker 1: 17:26

No, I'm not. So you make it personal, you make them feel valuable. You make it personal, you make them feel valuable, you make it deeper than just. Hey, I did this to check it off the box, correct? Okay, I'm gonna ask another different love language, okay, what about acts of service? I go and I oh my gosh detail your car I go and detail your car as a man yeah you clean my house, clean the house.

Speaker 2: 17:48

You make sure by the end of valentine's day night I don't have to worry about dishes but it's a friday, I gotta work. You at work, you can clean in the morning, or you can clean in the evening, or you can clean the day before, or you can hire someone call a clean lady yes, that's a something that is acts of service.

Speaker 2: 18:06

You hear the pain points. So all for the next two weeks, fellas. You hear the pain points, so all for the next two weeks, fellas. You hear what she's saying. You see things out of place. You see when she takes a deep sigh. You see when she is just tired and she is still moving because she has no other choice but to move to get it done. Take that load off of her. You see the invisible load. We've talked about this before. Take the load off of her and do it for her without her having to ask. That is how you win the heart of a of a acts of service person on valentine's day take note.

Speaker 1: 19:48

You know what I do. I do because you talk about stuff all the time and my memory's not. It goes in one ear and out the other.

Speaker 1: 19:56

Uncertain things and so when I hear something, when I hear something, yes, and I'm like, oh, I gotta remember that. I write it down. I keep. I have notes full of stuff, honeydew list, honeydew list. I got notes of stuff selena wants. I got notes of stuff for the house that selena wants. I have notes of stuff for the yard that selena wants. I have notes for her birthday of stuff she wants. Yes, I just gotta keep track of it.

Speaker 1: 20:18

Yes, because it comes by so quick in a conversation then it's just gone yes but part of that communication is using multiple senses to remember it, yes, writing and having it in my memory, yes, helps so much so we did gifts, we did touch, we did acts of service.

Speaker 2: 20:34

Yeah, um time time quality time quality time.

Speaker 2: 20:38

So instead of you know, hustling and bustling her to a show, a movie, a restaurant, a thing, just chill with her. Just have a conversation with her, write her a little love note and be like I can't wait to spend time with you later and then actually come up and be present, be present, put your phone down and be present. Don't go to a sports bar where you're watching a big screen TV behind her as she eats her food. Please don't do that. Please go and just make the eye contact and talk to her about her day and her season and her year. What do you like? What are you into? What books are you in? What show are you binging right now? Talk to her, get in her space with her.

Speaker 1: 21:22

That's good. That's good man. I wish I could. You needed to write that down, you said so many things there, right, run the tape when you oh man, you were hitting on all the love languages and you said, oh, okay, so we have Quality time person.

Speaker 2: 21:37

Yes.

Speaker 1: 21:38

We don't want to rush it Right. We don't want to go somewhere loud, we don't want to go somewhere where we can't connect.

Speaker 2: 21:43

Right.

Speaker 1: 21:44

This year, valentine's Day falls on a Friday.

Speaker 2: 21:46

Yes.

Speaker 1: 21:48

Let's set our Valentine's Day for Saturday.

Speaker 2: 21:50

We're not at work.

Speaker 1: 21:51

You could, when we can go, do something when the restaurants might not be as packed.

Speaker 2: 21:55

Go get some brunch and stay for a long time.

Speaker 1: 21:58

Go get some brunch on Saturday. That's awesome. Quality time we're talking. Go to a cool, like cool trendy area where you can go for a walk and enjoy just the outside. If that's what your thing is, you know.

Speaker 2: 22:09

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 22:10

And talk and I like the other part you said about-.

Speaker 2: 22:12

Play a board game.

Speaker 1: 22:15

Writing a love note ahead.

Speaker 2: 22:17

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 22:22

So that she's got got. Then she could have mental quality time with you thinking about the note and you can look back at the note all the way up to valentine's day. Yeah, last point in that yeah setting the stage for the event is so great for, for quality time people, because then we're able to be like oh, we could imagine it, like I said in your head, and I noticed you're using the word we, so are you touch and quality type.

Speaker 1: 22:42

I think so I don't know, you know one time you came at me and said you were all five. I dabble in all five of these love languages, Selena Right.

Speaker 2: 22:50

Can't be that way, why not?

Speaker 1: 22:52

I can be what I want. It's 2025.

Speaker 2: 22:54

Okay, Okay, go Okay.

Speaker 1: 22:56

Go on, tell me your next point.

Speaker 2: 22:57

This leads us right into words of affirmation. Yeah, and in words of affirmation, you are pouring your heart out through your words, obviously, yeah, you're being very personal with what holiday Valentine's Day card you're giving your person. You're spending more than two minutes in that card aisle picking the right one because the words will matter, in that card aisle, picking the right one because the words will matter. And then not only that, you're going to write personal words on the other side of the produced words and you're going to put all your heart into that. You're going to send text messages to them throughout the whole Valentine's day. You're so awesome. I love you, man. You know why I fell in love with you. Do you remember our first date? Do you remember when we we kissed? Do you remember when we said I do, I just, I just want, I just want all of you right now what is the words of affirmation?

Speaker 2: 23:47

person's favorite candy the little um, the little heart ones conversation hearts, the chalk ones.

Speaker 1: 23:52

Yeah, they taste like conversation hearts is that what they're conned?

Speaker 2: 23:55

yeah, do you like those?

Speaker 1: 23:56

I love them. I like the way they taste.

Speaker 2: 23:58

Sorry tastes like they should belong at the dentist. You just rinse your mouth out with water.

Speaker 1: 24:04

Afterwards it cleans your mouth like sandpaper on your teeth when you're chewing them it's like tartar builder buster or something right, right oh, that's so funny, that's so funny yes, so you want to be there.

Speaker 2: 24:17

Every word matters. Every word matters, from the fortune cookie to the chalk, nasty hearts to the words in your card, to the text messages, to what you say in person. Also words of affirmation. Just because you said it in a text, it hits different when you look them in the eyes and repeat it.

Speaker 2: 24:37

It hits different when you see them in person after work and you look them in the eyes and you say it hits. Different when you see them in person after work and you look them in the eyes and you say it again in person it hits different. Because words without the body language, without the eye contact, sometimes hold less value. And even though they will receive it because they know your heart, they know where you're coming from they'll feel it in a whole different way when you put all of yourself into those words.

Speaker 1: 25:03

Valentine's Day is a great day for the eye contact exercise, where you sit with your partner or stand with your partner and hold eye contact for 30 seconds, 60 seconds, whatever you can tolerate.

Speaker 2: 25:16

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 25:17

You know set it, you know, challenge yourself if. If you think 30 seconds is what you can tolerate, go for a minute and try and do it three or four times that day yeah, passing right and then see how that connection helps. I've seen where this just brings couples to tears. They don't say a word, they're just making eye contact. I've done that and it's just tears because it's been so long since they just had individual time to just look at each other and connect. And that eye is the window to the soul. It just comes out so much in that exercise, regardless of love language. That's for every couple this Valentine's Day. That's our homework to you is the eye contact.

Speaker 2: 25:54

Speaking of homework, you know what I think this sounds like, as the wheels are turning in my head is we just gave out so many examples of what couples can do on Valentine's day to make it their holiday, to make it their personal holiday of love. Right, Like let's? Let's call it that from now on. And why don't we add a handout in our couples playbook to break down all of the love languages and all of these ideas? That way you guys can have easy points and you can use them to help you prepare for your new holiday of personal love for each other.

Speaker 1: 26:31

So look for the holiday of love handout in the love by faith playbook yes, link in the description.

Speaker 2: 26:37

It's a totally free download that you guys can have. Yes, link in the description. It's a totally free download that you guys can have. And if you already have downloaded this, keep going back, because we keep adding to the playbook, we keep adding new plays for you guys, so make sure you look into that and this is going to drop. Yeah, it's going to drop. I'm going to make it.

Speaker 1: 26:56

Yeah, it'll be in time for Valentine's Day for you guys to plan, for you guys to communicate. The whole point of this episode is loving intentionally, yes, god loved us intentionally. He sent Jesus intentionally to be that sacrifice for our sins. Intentionally, yes, so that we can be set free. Intentionally that our marriages are a symbol of that love.

Speaker 2: 27:12

Amen.

Speaker 1: 27:13

And we need to love intentionally. Yes, we need to love so sincerely the world to show the world, Jesus said. Jesus said you will know that you are my disciples by the way you love, and the more we show our love to each other as a couple, the better disciple we're being. And that's what we're after. Well done, good and faithful servant.

Speaker 2: 27:37

Amen.

Speaker 1: 27:38

Loving intentionally is loving by faith.

Speaker 2: 27:41

Amen, amen. So anything else that we can tell them about Valentine's Day and being personal and being considerable and loving, intentionally turning a consumer holiday into a holiday that actually means something.

Speaker 1: 27:57

It's a great place to restart, to reconnect, to reboost your love, your passion, your romanticism and your relationship. Relationships need romance. We have a couple we've known for a while now and they've been married I don't even know how long probably 30, 25, 30 years and they intentionally have set out to every year valentine's day is not february 14th, it's february 15th. And it started when they were young. It started when they didn't have, didn't have it so good, and so he'd, he'd get all. He'd go and he'd go to the florist and he'd get the flowers she liked the day after and the florist was trying to unload all the stuff they didn't sell, so he'd get a way bigger bouquet for the same price.

Speaker 2: 28:40

That's pretty good.

Speaker 1: 28:40

They'd go to the restaurant so they wouldn't be busy, because it was literally the day after the busiest day, and they set their tradition. And so let this be a season where you guys set your tradition we set our tradition years ago, right? Or let it be a year where you restart that tradition, right? That's what we're here for Good marriages, good love, christ in the center, loving by faith.

Speaker 2: 29:06

And you have lots of time to work on this.

Speaker 1: 29:09

Get ahead of it.

Speaker 2: 29:09

No excuses. We are holding you accountable and we want to hear how your Valentine's Day goes, how your season of love goes. So make sure that you check in with us and you let us know if this episode was helpful to you and if it helped you guys bring in an entirely new meaning to this holiday.

Speaker 1: 29:28

We appreciate you being here with us for another episode. We hope that you got some great takeaways. Hit the playbook, check out the Love and Intentionally handout. I forget what I called it before, but it'll be there, it'll be ready.

Speaker 2: 29:46

And you'll have stuff that you can use. Absolutely so, kyle, since you spent all last month praying for our people, I would like to go ahead and volunteer a tribute and pray for this month. Pray for our love season and for our couples out there who are aiming to restart something or reconnect something new in this holiday season.

Speaker 1: 30:04

That's great, Bring it on. Bring it on.

Speaker 2: 30:06

Lord Jesus, we just thank you so much for allowing us to have this topic brought to our couples. We thank you that you gave us these ideas, that you gave us these fresh, encouraging bits to help them, to edify them in their relationship. Lord, I pray that you would speak to each listener and each watcher right now, that you would help them create a personal and meaningful holiday of love for their partner, that they would work together, that they would communicate, that this would just tear down walls.

Speaker 2: 30:35

This would tear down insecurities. This would tear down doubts and fears of what could happen if it could go wrong or breaking. Just making it a holiday. That shouldn't be what it is and, lord, I pray that you just fill them with love, fill their hearts and their intentions with love and help them reconnect together in mind, body and spirit. And we just lift all of this up to you in Jesus's name.

Speaker 1: 30:58

Amen Amen.

Speaker 2: 30:59

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Speaker 1: 31:20

That's right. We appreciate you being here. We'll see you next time. Man Live by faith.

Speaker 2: 31:27

Like by faith, love by faith. Yay, see you guys next week.

Speaker 1: 31:31

See you guys.

Speaker 2: 31:31

Bye, bye.

Speaker 1: 31:36

You know how you always want like an end credit.

Speaker 2: 31:40

Yeah, end credit scene. Yeah, we're doing it right now.

Speaker 1: 31:43

I took some time off on Valentine's Day, so I'll be home early Valentine's.

Speaker 2: 31:46

Day for you, really Mm-hmm, yep, why.

Speaker 1: 31:50

When Valentine's Day.

Speaker 2: 31:52

But when did you do this?

Speaker 1: 31:54

Earlier this week. What? Yeah, I had some time.

Speaker 2: 31:59

I was looking at my schedule and I was like I can do this. You took time off on Valentine's.

Speaker 1: 32:01

Day. Yeah, I'll be home early. I'll be able to help with all the kid stuff after school. No, they don't have school.

Speaker 2: 32:06

It was like a nightmare for me. They have no school.

Speaker 1: 32:09

Well, I'll be there to help ease the transition to bedtime Coming off of going into a long weekend. Yes, they have a four-day weekend maybe we can watch a movie with the kids yes, hang out yeah, it's so nice there we go, but I'm still getting flowers right you just said, flowers didn't matter no, they don't matter to them.

Speaker 2: 32:32

They totally matter to me. I love flowers. Okay, that's what my birthday is going to be all about. That's the theme of my birthday is blooming into. Oh, okay, I'm not gonna share it right now.

Speaker 1: 32:43

All right, it's too soon our episode, for our pilot, with the bleep in it, it has like the most views yeah that's so funny. Yeah, I gotta go time's up no, I gotta go.

Speaker 2: 32:53

I got things to do.

Speaker 1: 32:55

I got things to do all right time to go live by faith cheers good day.