For the Ladies: How to Make Your Man Feel Desired | Love By Faith with Kyle & Selina Almodovar #048

Ladies, what if the key to a fulfilling relationship is to desire your man and see him as a reward rather than a responsibility?

Celebrate with us as we mark the one-year anniversary of the Love by Faith podcast by challenging traditional romance roles and sharing our excitement about our newly launched website, Lovebyfaithministries.com. 

This episode marks a fresh perspective, inviting women to engage more actively in nurturing their relationships. By sharing personal stories, we underscore the importance of mutual appreciation and the art of being present, particularly when overwhelmed by daily life. Discover how small gestures and a touch of clear communication can transform the dynamics between partners and make the men feel desired.

Join us on a journey to unravel the complexities of desire and romance through the lens of holistic health and spiritual well-being. We tackle common challenges like decision fatigue and explore how prioritizing self-care can rejuvenate not just individuals but relationships too. 

Ladies, learn how understanding your partner's love language can significantly enhance your connection, and why being obvious with romantic gestures is pivotal, especially in long-term partnerships. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that both partners are essential for creating lasting, meaningful bonds, extending beyond the physical realm to truly appreciating and valuing one another.

Other topics mentioned in this episode:
- one year podcast anniversary
- new website
- ladies are burned out in relationships
- men taking the initiative to pursue and be pursued
- ladies giving hints to their man
- how women can express love towards their partner

Chapters

• 0:00 Helping Women Desire Their Men
• 6:58 Navigating Desire and Romance in Relationships
• 19:55 Building Desire and Connection in Relationships

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

How to help women desire their men. Women are just drained.

Speaker 2: 0:04

How did you find the desire for me?

Speaker 1: 0:06

It is multifaceted. I will tell you Sure.

Speaker 2: 0:08

I don't want to try that hard. I'm tired of trying.

Speaker 1: 0:10

We got to do a little bit more, ladies, we're not perfect people.

Speaker 2: 0:14

By any means.

Speaker 1: 0:16

But by trusting in God we learn what it takes to build a friendship.

Speaker 2: 0:20

A relationship.

Speaker 1: 0:21

And marriage that has stood the test of time.

Speaker 2: 0:24

With a relationship and marriage that has stood the test of time, With a keeping it real style. We're going to talk to you about everything, everything that we've been through, are going through and have overcome all by learning how to lean on God and each other in order to help you learn how to love by faith ooh, it's podcast time.

Speaker 1: 0:57

I'm so excited what are you excited about?

Speaker 2: 1:00

I can't believe we've been doing this a year a whole year so does that mean we have like 52 episodes?

Speaker 1: 1:07

Very close. I think we're episode 48.

Speaker 2: 1:10

Let's go, you know, because we did take we took the breaks. Spring break, a little winter break.

Speaker 1: 1:15

Right and we took the summer break. So yeah, we're at. We're at 48 episodes. We've had close to 500 downloads. Nice. Thank you all we've been all we've been broadcast all over the world, all over the states going global everyone in spain and and russia and venezuela and someone in oregon. There's people in oregon that keep listening to us, so we thank you guys for just lots of love the support um both on the podcasting platforms and everyone on youtube.

Speaker 1: 1:44

We see you guys watching us and enjoying what we're putting down and it's just been so crazy to think that it took us 10 years to podcast and now, one whole year later of just being consistent and obedient to this, it's the lord's timing.

Speaker 2: 1:59

Lord's timing makes it right when once his timing is ready, once it's the go time for him to do it, to make it happen, it goes.

Speaker 1: 2:07

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 2:08

It's so good.

Speaker 1: 2:09

And can I just say that, as a celebration to our one year of Love by Faith podcast, we officially have a website.

Speaker 2: 2:19

Yo launched.

Speaker 1: 2:20

We officially have a website guys.

Speaker 2: 2:22

Lovebyfaithministriescom.

Speaker 1: 2:24

That's right, please go look at it. I worked very hard on that, kyle, and I worked really hard on the poses and the copy and the services things that we were going to offer editor-in-chief here it is this guy.

Speaker 2: 2:38

You smiled for the camera she's creator-in-chief, I'll be editor-in-chief, okay, come on thank you.

Speaker 1: 2:44

thank you for editing the things, but we want you guys to go check that out. That's how we can serve you. That shows all of our services. It has a scheduler there in case you guys want to book any sessions to receive some counsel or some coaching or premarital work in between your relationship transition.

Speaker 2: 3:01

Or even if you just have been married a while and are like I don't know, we're feeling kind of like bored and we want to take things up a notch. We're there.

Speaker 1: 3:14

We want to be in that Definitely, and there's also links for you guys to get our free Love by Faith Couples Playbook there, so you guys can get all of this stuff there at the new website in honor of our one year podcasting and something that you just said was a great leeway into this new series. You know, as you know, last month we've been talking about for the guys.

Speaker 2: 3:30

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 3:31

All the things that we need, to let the guys know.

Speaker 2: 3:34

All the guy voices.

Speaker 1: 3:35

Yeah, mildly yeah.

Speaker 2: 3:37

Okay, all that jazz.

Speaker 1: 3:40

Get all that out of the way. To help guys just elevate themselves and come to a better position so that they know what they can work on specifically for the relationships being mature being driven seeking the Lord, all that stuff. All the stuff Be romantic, let's not forget.

Speaker 2: 3:56

Being romantic.

Speaker 1: 3:57

Romantic yes Speaking her romance language.

Speaker 2: 4:11

That's right, and so now we're going to turn the tables, and we're going to get into what the girls need to focus on in order to make the relationship better.

Speaker 1: 4:14

Okay, here's something that I want to say Now. Ladies, I am team girl all the way, of course, obviously, like I am your advocate, I am here rooting for you. However, a lot of the times, women in a relationship feel like all they have to do is just sit and pretty and just sit there, and the guy has to do all the work, to make the effort to get turned on, to serve them, to respect them, to love them, and that's not always the case, right?

Speaker 2: 4:41

No, it gets. I'll tell you what it can get to be not overwhelming. It's like it can get to be where. I don't want to try that hard. I'm tired of trying. I get. You know you get weary in in doing all the effort.

Speaker 1: 4:55

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 4:55

It's the effort overload.

Speaker 1: 4:56

You know what it is. It's we talked about this in the last episode where women like to be pursued and they just take it to a long-term level where they're like no, constantly pursue me, constantly pursue me, or I'm going to react with absence of blank, you know, absence of intimacy, absence of engagement, absence of being present and serving you, you know all the things. And they feel like if the husband is not trying hard enough, then therefore they don't get the reward. Women, yes, you're the reward, but so is your man. Like he's to be pursued as well and he's a good catch as well.

Speaker 1: 5:34

And I know a lot of the times when I'm sitting at home and I'm thinking about you know, I see other relationships, or I see something on TV, I see a couple in a movie or whatever. I look back and I'm like, you know, kyle gets on my nerves sometimes, often, but there's no one else that I would rather be with, you know, and that deserves some credit, like, that deserves some acknowledgement, that deserves some awareness on his part of like, hey, bro, like you are really a good guy and I'm really grateful that I have you in my life. And I don't know if I would be the person that I am today without you, and I think that's very important for women to acknowledge and make known. Maybe you tell it to your husband, but sometimes they need a little bit more than just I love you and that thank you for being there, like maybe they need to hear the details, just the same way as we need to hear the details. And all I'm trying to say is we got to do a little bit more, ladies.

Speaker 1: 6:31

We got to do a little bit more in our relationship with our guys to help them do the most that we are expecting them to do.

Speaker 2: 6:39

So the goal here in this episode is to help the women understand how to show their guy he's wanted. Yeah, so it's for the ladies to help their guy feel wanted to feel desired to feel desired. That's deeper.

Speaker 1: 6:51

Oh, that's great how to help women desire their men I think a lot of times it starts with us.

Speaker 2: 6:58

It goes back to what. It goes back to what we were talking about last time, right being, not being not being romantic, right, not being romantic, I'm talking about just, yes, being present. I didn't want to say it, just being attentive to her right. Not being attentive to her like hey, you're looking great today, you're looking looking tasty today. Being attentive in hey, hon, I saw that that laundry needed switched over. I took care of that. Oh my god, I saw that those dishes needed switched over.

Speaker 2: 7:24

I took care of that. Oh my God, I saw that those dishes were just sitting there. I took care of that.

Speaker 1: 7:26

I showed you this real recently.

Speaker 2: 7:29

But I'm saying, yes, this that opens the door to her being like hey, man, you're looking great today. Is that new cologne? Oh, what's up.

Speaker 1: 7:38

Yes, it's very, it's very reciprocated, it's a reciprocated, it's a cycle. And of course because, guys, are the leaders of the home. They are the ones that should take the initiative, but once they start that, women should. I'm not going to say they will, it's not a command, but they should feel the overflow. They should feel so filled up in love and in gratitude for their person loving on them that it would overflow into.

Speaker 1: 8:09

I want to do something back for them, but again, I think one of the things that becomes a problem is that women wear so many hats and they are so overwhelmed and they're so overstimulated that a lot of the times they are running on fumes.

Speaker 2: 8:27

Right.

Speaker 1: 8:27

You know, a lot of the times they're in charge of the house, a lot of the times they're the administrative assistant for the entire household. You know booking all of the appointments and setting up all of the dates and all of the events and you know, having that in the back of their brain.

Speaker 1: 8:41

Then they have to keep the house clean. They're the housekeeper of all the things and making sure everything's organized and making sure everything's properly placed. Most of the time they're in charge of what goes in the fridge and what goes in the bellies of the people with the house, and so you have to be mindful of diets and habits and snacks and meals and all of these things, and so it gets to the point where women are just drained.

Speaker 2: 9:02

Right.

Speaker 1: 9:03

We're just so drained and we don't often get a break. Sometimes, guys, they get the break even to the point of like I'll even use the smallest example where guys will say I got to go to the bathroom and you guys are gone forever in the bathroom on your break. Let a girl do that when she has small kids and see how that works. Kids are constantly busting in there. I can't tell you how many times Jubilee wants to coach me in how to potty train when you know, just because I'm mom.

Speaker 2: 9:31

So she's just living back the example she saw when she was figuring out how to go to the bathroom.

Speaker 1: 9:35

Correct, but like that would never happen for the father.

Speaker 2: 9:37

It doesn't. No, nobody wants to be around when it smells like that.

Speaker 1: 9:41

So maybe we need to not smell as good. I don't know, but I'm just saying I think one of the reasons why women lose sight of the desire to chase their man is because they're just so overwhelmed and they're so over capacity with things that they need to keep mind of that we just lose sight of. I need to also work on this too. We just lose sight of. I need to also work on this too.

Speaker 2: 10:04

So it's more of a. It seems like it's more of a decision fatigue, yeah, and more of a, not decision burnout, but a decision like I'm done, trying I've had to do, I've had to keep my mind so locked in on taking care of kids house. I also work a 40 hour a week job. Right, I also have problems that I'm thinking about, and if my husband is being inattentive or not being at least aware of me facing these challenges and letting me face them alone, why would she show up to want you, dude, if that's where you're at?

Speaker 1: 10:38

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 10:38

But on that flip side let me ask you this on the problem solving side of that how do you defeat that mindset when you were in it, because I know you've been there, because I know, because I've been there with you. How do you defeat that?

Speaker 1: 10:50

mindset.

Speaker 2: 10:52

How did you stay romantic? How did you find the romance?

Speaker 1: 10:56

How did I feel desired? How did I find the desire for you?

Speaker 2: 10:59

How did you find the desire for me?

Speaker 1: 11:06

It is multifaceted. I will tell you it is not, is not?

Speaker 2: 11:07

a one way road, it is not a one step solution.

Speaker 1: 11:08

It's not a magic bullet. No, and here's the thing is, I can only speak for myself. Women are so different in so many levels, and so many layers.

Speaker 1: 11:16

I can only speak for myself and for me. In order for me to really be actively mindful of I want to pursue Kyle and I need to desire I'm going to show you that I'm desiring you I have to be holistically healthy. What does that mean? That means I need to be pursuing and chasing after God first, because when I do it with him, then I understand what I need to do with you. I understand what it looks like, what it feels like, what goes into being chasing after God, and so, therefore, I can know what it feels like, what it looks like, what it should be like to chase after you. So I'm using God as the blueprint to do it, to repeat the process with you. I have to do it with him first.

Speaker 1: 12:03

The second thing is I have to be sure that I'm physically healthy. Did I get enough sleep? Are my hormones balanced? Like, do I have anything? Do I have that headache? You know, wives always say I got a headache, I can't, I can't do things at night, I got a headache. Do you really have a headache? Like, can I make sure that I'm well with myself before I'm like okay, I can focus on you now because I'm checked out and I'm okay. I'm physically okay. I need to make sure that I am mentally there because, again, women are rivers and if one thing ticked me off, that thing's going to stay with me and I'm completely not focused on you. I know that it's like the unicorn of emotional seasons, because women have to be good on all of these other levels in order to physically and intimately and emotionally connect with you and to show you that. But also it takes practice.

Speaker 2: 12:59

So what does that practice look like? That's kind of what I'm getting at. Is what is the practice? So I remember in a part of our relationship where we were both super busy yeah, we had I think it was when we had one kid, or maybe even before that, and we would schedule our romantic nights oh yeah, like just going in the calendar, so that yep, hey, you knew sometimes you got to do that it was this day.

Speaker 2: 13:19

Yep, you can mentally lock in from the time you wake up, so it's time to to connect. And that helped a lot. Yeah, that helped our communication, helped our connection. Helped. Helped me to know, like, hey, I can be extra flirty I don't know, not extra but I can be more touchy than I would usually, more huggy and lovey-dovey. But it also taught me patience in reading you and seeing how the day went. Yeah, to say, hey, wait, today might not be a good day, yeah, we might have to change this and book a different day, right, right. And so that helped improve our communication, just just by knowing we have that set and then knowing that it's not an awkward communication gap for us, that we know, like, hey, this is communicated, this is going to happen, but, like any, any meeting, anything in your schedule, it can get rescheduled if it needs to. Right, that practice helped us grow in this area, helped, helped you to know, hey, I got to show him that he's wanted today and go extra.

Speaker 1: 15:25

So here's what I mean when I talk about practice.

Speaker 2: 15:28

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 15:28

When I think about how I practice to desire you.

Speaker 2: 15:32

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 15:39

A lot of the times I overthink things, like when it comes to desiring you. I run into this rabbit hole of overthinking. Okay, and women, if you are tracking with me on this, let me know in comments. You know, let me know. If this is you as well, here's what will happen.

Speaker 1: 15:52

I see you, for example, it's breakfast time. I see you, I see a smile on your face and I'm like that's my man, I love him. And then sometimes I overthink it and I'm like I want to tell him that he looks good, but if I tell him, he's going to say something back, and then, if he says something back, he might think that I'm insinuating other things. Am I ready to insinuate other things? Am I prepared to be intimate based on the day that I'm having right now? Well, I don't want to lead him on, so it's best I just don't say anything. I start to overthink in my head, and so I have to practice not doing that. I have to practice when the Holy Spirit tells me, go up behind him when he's washing dishes and give him a hug.

Speaker 2: 16:43

Right.

Speaker 1: 16:43

And not overthink it, and not put my insecurities there and not feel like, oh, if I do that, he's going to want more, and just be like bro. Just focus on the moment, right At the practice. Being in the moment and not entrusting that me being in the moment of showing you desire is not going to lead to or insinuate that I mean anything beyond that, right, okay?

Speaker 2: 17:08

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 17:08

If I want to be intimate at nighttime with you, then I have to show you by going a little extra step Okay, time with you. Then I have to show you by going a little extra step okay, by surprising you or initiating it. That takes practice, because I'm so used to you pursuing me or I'll start overthinking in my head of like, oh, I don't like how I look, I don't feel sexy, I don't want to. You know how long is this going to take? Okay, how many hours am I going to have to sleep If I start this now?

Speaker 1: 17:37

I got to stop overthinking. I got to practice just being in that moment. I got to practice just showing you that sometimes in the middle of the day, it's just a moment in the middle of the day, sometimes at nighttime, means that I'm going to take this initiative. I remember I would try to do it and it would fall flat, okay, and it was because you didn't know what to do with that, because I was so in consistent with it. So, for example, I remember one winter there was the fire was going and the kids were asleep and the Christmas tree was up and it was really beautiful and I decided to wear red lipstick, okay, and that was my sign of saying hey, I want to be romantic.

Speaker 2: 18:19

Right.

Speaker 1: 18:19

You didn't get it because you were like how am I supposed to understand that? That's what you meant.

Speaker 2: 18:24

Right, you know, I know you're wearing makeup right now and you look awesome, thank you, and I see this. And it was like a night where you were like this through the day and it was like a night where you were like this through the day and so you came to our TV time where we were just relaxing together like this, and to me I didn't get a message that, hey, this is extra, where, if it wasn't extra, you would have you know, took your makeup wipe and went.

Speaker 1: 18:51

Right.

Speaker 2: 18:51

Cleaned up and were super down face, but I missed that message, right?

Speaker 1: 18:56

sorry, keep going and the reason why you missed the message is because I wasn't showing you that I desired you, I wasn't being very clear and open and I didn't go the extra step to show you that I was desiring you. In that moment, I was just basically saying here I am, I'm going to do a little bit more and then I'm he's going to pursue me.

Speaker 2: 19:21

Okay, you see what I'm saying.

Speaker 1: 19:22

So there are times, women, where you guys will or where we will do something to be like okay, this is me showing him that I desire him.

Speaker 2: 19:34

Okay.

Speaker 1: 19:34

And then he has to do the rest of the work. I'm giving 10%, but I'm expecting him to do 90%, and if he doesn't receive my 10%, then oh well, I'm showing him. Here I am. He didn't grab it, he didn't take the bait.

Speaker 2: 19:47

So that's a great, great breakdown there. Can I break this down through the guy's interpretation?

Speaker 1: 19:52

Absolutely.

Speaker 2: 19:52

And break this down through the guy's interpretation, absolutely and through a little scripture, interpretation.

Speaker 1: 19:55

Okay, let's do it.

Speaker 2: 19:55

You started off talking about worry. Yeah, worrying about am I? Will this lead to this and this and this and this? What if this and this and this yep, both of those kind of questions, both of those thought patterns, all right are being worried? Yeah, and be anxious for nothing anxious yep be anxious for nothing, yep. And then the practice part. You talked about starting small, yep. Right, be faithful. And little, starting small with small compliments. Hey, you look great today. Hey, nice jeans. Hey, is that a new hat? Hey, did you brush your hair?

Speaker 1: 20:28

or if he's a touch language guy, right, if touch of his love language play taps go, go, go for shoulders, go for low risk areas, go for shoulders do a little poke, I would stay away from the waist okay, okay, stay away.

Speaker 2: 20:43

You know good, that's good, you know knees shoulders back, like if you're starting small so that you're not giving him the wrong message early. You're gonna start in in friendly touch areas friendly touch pets on the back, pets there okay, but if you're insinuating like hey, game on tonight or game on later waist chest belly belly too it depends on your guy. You gotta know your guy, okay, but for me, if that's where you're, you know what I mean okay, I'm just'm just saying Okay, this is good.

Speaker 1: 21:13

Start small, be faithful in the little.

Speaker 2: 21:15

This is good, right, and then the compliments.

Speaker 1: 21:18

And the compliments.

Speaker 2: 21:19

There's nothing wrong with writing him a love note. Bro, speak his love language, guys I think the love language is guys tend to be more towards touch and words. Touch and words. Guys don't hear how great they are enough. Guys cannot hear how great they are enough. Guys cannot hear how great they are enough. You can tell them over and over how great they are, kyle. Catch them in things and make it genuine. And yes, what Selena? What's the?

Speaker 1: 21:45

you're so great, you're so good there it is.

Speaker 2: 21:47

See, I'm blushing. There's no problem I got. I'm not ashamed of that. That's my wife telling me how great I am you're great, that's great, that's good, that's good insight and then the the last part. You got to where you put on lipstick and it was supposed to be a clue to me. Yeah, right bro the bait I'm a caveman we bait I'm a caveman yes remember in, remember, okay, I'm gonna use, use, I'm going to date myself.

Speaker 2: 22:09

We're 90s kids, right? Yes. So remember in Looney Tunes when Elmer Fudd would be chasing, chasing Bugs Bunny, okay, and Bugs Bunny would just turn into a big drumstick just sitting right there, right, okay, it needs to be that obvious for the dude. Obvious for the dude like to me, because your lipstick is so regularly on. Yeah, if you want to show me a little hint with your makeup eyeshadow I know eyeshadow makes a huge difference you go with a smoky eye and I'm like, oh, wow, okay, like there's a hint there okay but the hints gotta be super obvious, super like.

Speaker 2: 22:45

You gotta like bang him over the head with it. It's got to be such a good hint yeah okay if you're hinting at romantic time, especially for the couples who've been married a long time yeah because the romantic time is takes, takes work and takes practice.

Speaker 2: 22:59

Yeah, and if this is your first few times doing it or your first time, like really dropping a heavy, hint you got to really really make him know like, hey, I put on extra red lipstick and like do the eye raise thing? So he knows, yeah, exactly, and his eyes will get big and he might get like deer in the headlights. Look, but just keep it going. Yeah, It'll be good.

Speaker 1: 23:26

Here's one more thing that I want to leave us with, and that is it's more than just the intimate time in bed. It's more than just the physical connection that you have, but it's important that you show ladies, it's important that you show your guy that they are desired on a regular basis, because they need to know how important they are.

Speaker 2: 23:46

I think a lot of the times yes, exactly, I think a lot of the times.

Speaker 1: 23:49

I think a lot of the times we, as women, we know we're strong. We know we can do things on our own. We know that we can tackle on way more than what we think we can handle when we're met with a challenge. We know that we can overcome adversity. We know we can balance everything. We know that we have what it takes to be on our own. We know that we can do it because a lot of the times you guys are really strong women.

Speaker 1: 24:14

You can do things on your own if you want it to, but you're choosing not to.

Speaker 1: 24:19

You're choosing to choose him to do it with you, okay, and the guy knows that you're strong. That's probably one of the qualities that he loves most about you is that you're strong and you're independent and you can handle your own right. But to know that I chose you, to know that I want you here to know that you help me just as much as I help you to know that life would be different without you and I don't want to see what that looks like. God forbid I don't have to see what that looks like anytime soon To have your person know that they're important in your life, knowing that they're not just baggage, or that they're just there, or they're just the partner of the parents like co-parenting, to know that they are so special to you and so important to you. That can do something in your relationship, ladies, that can go far beyond what you can do in a bedroom, setting that can go far beyond what red lipstick can do on a movie night.

Speaker 1: 25:25

It can really take you guys to a place where you guys can do anything together. If you show him that you care for him and if you let him know that this is why I care about you, then imagine what the reciprocation would be and would come out of that. Imagine what the overflow would look like if you continuously poured into him in that manner, even when you're on your fume days, even when you're on empty and you have nothing else left to give, just to share the words.

Speaker 2: 25:59

Stop and say hey, I got nothing left to give.

Speaker 1: 26:01

But I really appreciate you today and you really showed up for me and you helped me in this way and there is no one else that I'd rather be on fumes with than with you and to really just pour some of your heart out through words, even when you have nothing else to give. It goes a long way To pray over your person, to pray over your guy and to pray with him, for him.

Speaker 2: 26:26

And the more unconditional you can make it. Showing him unconditional love is key. If he only gets those compliments when he performs, when he meets your expectation, that's so conditional that it won't motivate him right. He won't feel desired. Unconditional love makes you feel desired. Unconditional love keeps you coming back, keeps you trying hard on those days where you're not expecting it.

Speaker 1: 26:50

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 26:51

That consistency. You talked about the consistency. Yeah, that's huge. The consistency to show him appreciation on a Tuesday, show him appreciation on a Sunday, show him appreciation when he feels down, when he feels great All that consistency matters so much. Consistency is huge because if it comes off, like I said, if it's only when he has to earn it quote, unquote yeah, it's going to be conditional and he's going to, in his head, be like she's just saying this because I did that and that or if you want something right, oh, she just wants me to get her to manipulate this purse she's been asking about yeah right, but I think, uh, that that's huge, that consistency.

Speaker 1: 27:29

Yeah, so hopefully we gave you a couple of points to start with.

Speaker 2: 27:33

That was a lot, man, that was heavy. Yeah, I think that was great.

Speaker 1: 27:35

Yeah, we'll keep this ball rolling next week.

Speaker 2: 27:38

More for the girls, more for the girls or for the ladies, what did we call it? For the girls For for the guys, for the girls, yeah, more for the girls, for the ladies.

Speaker 1: 27:46

I like ladies, because a little more grown up yeah, I do too why don't we pray them out?

Speaker 2: 27:50

we will all right your turn. I'm praying for the girls, that's right.

Speaker 1: 27:54

Lord, we just thank you so much for bringing us together with this conversation. We hope that you are touching the hearts of these women and the relationships that they would feel um a loving conviction to change certain things about their relationship, things that they could take action in, that you would press them and stretch them and even nudge them, lord, to desire their husbands and their partners once again. Lord, we pray that you would just tell them what to do, what to say, when to say it, so that they can begin to develop a consistent lifestyle where they're desiring their person and the overflow just goes in every area of their relationship as a result.

Speaker 1: 28:36

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Speaker 1: 29:03

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Speaker 2: 29:05

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Speaker 1: 29:06

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Speaker 2: 29:14

See ya Great episode. Yeah, so good.

Speaker 1: 29:29

I think the point about the unconditional and conditional, like not only telling him he's awesome when he does something.

Speaker 2: 29:32

Yeah's huge reminds me of a dog. Like good boy. Yeah, like it's just gotta be, he's a good boy you're a good boy. Yeah, you really are great though greeting him with a smile like if you guys get home from work at different times or he's out fishing or whatever he does is his, is his recreation yeah, like greeting him like awesome when he gets home. Yeah, no matter what, it's huge that smile looking up from your phone when he gets home unless there's like chaotic mess from kids.

Speaker 2: 29:58

No, no, unless that's the whole point that's the whole point is that there's no one less.

Speaker 1: 30:04

No that's a good book title, no, unless but that's what I'm saying is.

Speaker 2: 30:08

My point is it can't be conditional, it has to be just pure. I'm grateful that this man just came back to my house and my guy just came through my door I'm so glad that he's here so that he could tag me out. Yes, even if that's, even if that's what comes after it. Yes, but show him that appreciation regardless. Yes, if he walks, if he watch how he changes when he walks through the door and you greet him like that, watch how his just whole glow changes guys are gonna glow up in this series glow up all right.

Speaker 1: 30:43

Well, kyle, you're already glowing. Gotta glow. What is?

Speaker 2: 30:45

that new face lotion gotta glow. Wait, you're already glowing, gotta glow.

Speaker 1: 30:47

What is that? A new face lotion. Gotta glow, Wait, you're leaving.