For the Guys: Strengthening Relationships with Romance | Love By Faith with Kyle & Selina Almodovar #047

Can you really strengthen your relationship with romance? 

Discover the simplicities of this question as we embark on a heartfelt journey through romance, relationships, and the many gestures that shape them. 

Amidst personal anecdotes and a touch of humor, we explore the transformative power of compliments, small surprises, and the language of love, pondering how these elements can either bolster or challenge our connections. 

With our "For the Guys" series, we shine a light on how men can elevate their romantic game and how women can bolster their efforts, even when they miss the mark. As we recount significant moments from our own experiences, such as wedding day surprises that left an indelible impression, you'll find insights into how love languages and thoughtfulness can create a love that withstands the test of time.

Join us as we share tales of romance with a candid, "Keeping it Real" approach, reflecting on the imperfect yet beautiful journey of love and marriage. From the playful banter about the art of compliments to the deeper reflections on building enduring friendships and relationships, our conversation is a medley of humor, sincerity, and practical advice. 

We invite you to laugh and learn with us as we navigate the moving target of romance, offering insights and stories illuminating the path to expressing love in more meaningful ways. Whether you're in a new relationship, a seasoned marriage, or somewhere in between, there's something here for everyone seeking to enrich their love life with a touch of faith and friendship.

Other topics in this episode: 
- best romantic gestures
- worst romantic gestures
- Christmas traditions
- love languages
- how guys can be better at romance
- guys need romance too

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Am I being romantic?

Speaker 2: 0:03

What happened to the guy who was romanticizing me? And now he's just demanding.

Speaker 1: 0:07

We're going to talk about some romance.

Speaker 2: 0:09

This isn't romantic at all.

Speaker 1: 0:10

How other guys can be more romantic.

Speaker 2: 0:12

It affects everything. We're not perfect people.

Speaker 1: 0:17

By any means.

Speaker 2: 0:18

But by trusting in God we learn what it takes to build a friendship.

Speaker 1: 0:22

A relationship.

Speaker 2: 0:24

And marriage that has stood the test of time.

Speaker 1: 0:27

With a Keeping it Real style. We're going to talk to you about everything everything that we've been through are going through and have overcome All by learning how to lean on God and each other.

Speaker 2: 0:40

In order to help you learn how to love by faith.

Speaker 1: 0:57

You look great today. I feel like a wet dog. Have you? Have you? Did you do something different with your makeup? You look so nice.

Speaker 2: 1:05

No, I didn't.

Speaker 1: 1:06

No, Maybe it's your new jeans. Is it new jeans? I don't.

Speaker 2: 1:09

I don't know You're all these compliments.

Speaker 1: 1:12

Do you feel cute?

Speaker 2: 1:12

I just I rolled out of bed 20 minutes ago.

Speaker 1: 1:16

I feel like you're cute today.

Speaker 2: 1:17

Thank you, thank you. I I do feel cute when I wear jeans. It's a it's a good day. I very. Ever since I've had children, I very rarely wear jeans.

Speaker 1: 1:27

That's just my style is it a new color lipstick?

Speaker 2: 1:30

I do have more red tones and less pink blush all right all right, because it's fall, you know, you're getting into those dark winter seasons, and so you have to change up your palette to adjust to the darker colors, the darker policy. Yes, I do have reds instead of pinks am I being romantic? If you were to take my hand and then like start kissing it oh and then, like, kiss it all the way up to the shoulder. Like that would have been romantic.

Speaker 1: 1:58

I can't do that on the podcast I know I'm not here. They're not here for that, I know, know, I know, I know Very Adams family ish, but yeah that's romance.

Speaker 2: 2:07

That's romance. You know um what? What else do I think of from it Like yes?

Speaker 1: 2:11

So French accent, little pencil mustache. Yes, that's romantic.

Speaker 2: 2:15

Yes, chocolates, chocolate. Cappucc walked in here and would have been like hey, I got you a coffee, let's go. Let's have this podcast and then you would have like gave it to me, and then you would have like gave me a nice like eye moment with, like the kiss of, like wow, you look really great today. After that kiss, you're like that's romantic that would have been like okay, that's great, but for you to keep giving me, like one compliment after another, after another.

Speaker 2: 2:47

It makes me think, as a woman, like what does this dude want?

Speaker 1: 2:50

Wow.

Speaker 2: 2:51

What does he want?

Speaker 1: 2:52

So, if you can't tell, we're getting into the topic of romance today In our For the Guys series, we're going to talk about some romance how the guys can be more romantic, how the girls can help their guy when he's trying to be romantic. Even if it falls short, like I just did in our opening, it's all good. Romance is a difficult topic. It's it's definitely a moving target. It falls into a lot of what we talked about last week. So, without further delay, selena, yes, what is the most romantic thing I ever did?

Speaker 2: 3:25

you proposed, gave me a ring okay the most romantic thing you've ever did. Okay, here is. We were on high with romance. It was our wedding day okay it was our wedding day, so my love language is gifts. This is is very important. We will come back to this. My love language is gifts. We gave each other wedding gifts. As we were getting ready, people snuck out and exchanged our gifts.

Speaker 2: 3:54

I gave you a watch and then, out of nowhere, flowers showed up. I was like, oh my gosh, I thought my gift was this wedding, because that's a lot of money. So you gave me flowers and I was like, oh, I wasn't expecting this. It totally caught me off guard. And then after the reception, we rode your motorcycle to the hotel and we were checking in. And as they were checking in, they were like, oh, I'm a Dovar and she plops a beautiful box a beautiful bow on it kind of box, and he was like this is for you.

Speaker 2: 4:27

And I was like, oh my God, what is this? And he was like this is another wedding gift for you. I think it had a kimono in it because, I'm very into Asian fashion and Asian culture and you have this beautiful kimono inside it and I was just like you ain't never getting rid of me. Where I'm here, yeah I am concrete in just poured out and so because of the surprise element the surprise element, the thoughtful, the, the personalization of.

Speaker 2: 4:57

Like you knew I loved flowers, you knew I wanted this kimono yeah you knew it was very beautifully delivered yeah it was a beautiful.

Speaker 1: 5:05

It wasn't just like here have it yeah, so it's in a nice, this is a nice box.

Speaker 2: 5:10

Yeah, that helps the delivery, the consideration feeding into the love language speaking your love language not me having to tell like you did it out of your own, you took initiatives for it yeah these are guys.

Speaker 2: 5:23

I hope you're writing this down because, as I'm saying it like all of these things matter yeah because you can miss one of these things and your romance attempt will fall flat and then you're going to be upset, like guys will get upset and defensive and they're like, well, I try to do it and this is why I don't do this for you anymore and it's like you didn't do it right. Do it right the first time and keep repeating it. Don't just think you're gonna do it great on the wedding day right and then the rest of the 10 years.

Speaker 2: 5:51

You don't come up with that like you set the standard, and then you're just gonna fall short every single time and expect us to be wooed and ready to, you know, ready to rumble not happening no I remember the least romantic thing I ever did oh no, I know exactly what this is.

Speaker 1: 6:06

It's it's a tie so it's a tiebreaker when we were first dating, I thought I was gonna be slick. I knew she loved gifts. I was gonna give her a gift, like on every month anniversary of our dating right? And so one month came around and I wasn't ready no I wasn't prepared. I didn't have anything like pre-planned.

Speaker 1: 6:26

It was like I've been like pushing it, bro, like this was all you yeah, it might have been like month seven or eight I don't know, it was like four come on, give me a little more credit than that it was four or five, I swear and I was like all right, what can I give her, what can I give her? And I'm looking around and that's where it's already bad guys, if you're at the last, like millisecond before you're trying to be romantic.

Speaker 2: 6:49

you're like I'll give her this, that's over.

Speaker 1: 6:51

So I'm looking around and I'm like, oh, I have this great hoodie that I wear all the time. It smells like me. He didn't even wash it, y'all.

Speaker 2: 7:07

It smells like me, right? I was like oh, this is romantic, she'll love it because it smells like me and I'll give it to her. Wasn't even like a cologne on it.

Speaker 1: 7:10

It was just like it smells. Like me after I went outside and walked a dog lightweight musty shirt that I had been wearing for a hoodie that I've been wearing for a while and I was like here and I didn't like she, like we talked about total opposite.

Speaker 2: 7:19

I didn't wrap it I didn't do anything wearing that sweatshirt two days ago.

Speaker 1: 7:23

It was horrible and still embarrassing, but I share that so that my mistake you guys can benefit from. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing that you said there was a tie, it was, so I know that was one of them.

Speaker 2: 7:35

Yes, that was definitely one of them.

Speaker 1: 7:38

I feel like you've already done enough.

Speaker 2: 7:40

Like we've already put Kyle deep enough in this hole.

Speaker 1: 7:43

Like I don't want to keep burying you oh man, I'm out here so they can learn from my mistakes.

Speaker 2: 7:47

Wow, okay, so you want me to, you want me to share the other one.

Speaker 1: 7:50

I don't know what you're going to share. We might have to edit it out.

Speaker 2: 7:52

Okay. So on Valentine's day still dating, we were not engaged yet Kyle decides to give me a beautiful set of colored pearl.

Speaker 1: 8:05

Oh, this is fine. You just won't get edited out Colored pearl bracelets.

Speaker 2: 8:08

I was so happy. I loved where I had. I used to wear a ton of bracelets and a bunch of rings. Back in the day and Kyle bought me these things. I was wonderful, it was great. Then another holiday. I think it was my birthday, because my birthday is 10 days apart from Valentine's day. So birthday rolls around, gives me another gift and it is the same exact pair of pearl bracelets Same style.

Speaker 2: 8:33

Same style, only it was like different colors, and I was like this looks exactly like the other pearl bracelets that you gave me on valentine's day and he was like I know they came in a set and I'm like this dude stretched the package like I was a cinematic universal movie to release like you're gonna just split it part one and part two and just make me wait to to receive the full gift, as if the full gift would give me equal pleasure in both holidays. I felt so duped. I was just like this. I don't want to say cheap, but like what? Why would you do this?

Speaker 1: 9:15

you know, it seemed like a good idea to fight about it to this day. You're not a fight. It's not a fight, but to this day we're like.

Speaker 2: 9:22

Is it right or is it wrong to split a gift and spread it across holidays? From my perspective, that's like me giving you one sock on christmas and the other sock on?

Speaker 1: 9:31

I bought king's day I bought a set of bracelets and I think it was like a 12 pack. It was like all these colors and I was like, sweet, let me split them. Give some of this at this event and some at that event. Guys don't ever do that and it seemed like a great idea. It seemed logical to me. It was two birds with one stone, but I came across as cheap and that's a great, great example of how thinking I'm being I wasn't even trying to be romantic I wasn't even trying to be romantic there, that was just me trying to be a gift giver.

Speaker 1: 10:01

And yeah, I guess I was. I was cutting the cutting the corner.

Speaker 2: 10:04

So I want to make it very clear like being romantic does not mean that you have to go out of your pocket and blow your budget right. One of the most romantic things that you did for me, kyle, falls around christmas time. Okay, okay, I was still testing kyle to see if he was able to handle me forever where were we at in our relationship?

Speaker 1: 10:25

here we, we were dating Dating.

Speaker 2: 10:26

Okay, and I was still testing you, yeah. And you were asking me like what do you want for Christmas? What do you want for Christmas? This was coming out of a very long-term relationship where he gave me nothing for Christmas, gave me nothing for Valentine's Like I never received anything and I'm a giver Like I never received anything and I'm a giver.

Speaker 1: 10:43

So from your previous relationship they were not a giver.

Speaker 2: 10:45

Not giving me anything.

Speaker 1: 10:46

Anything, nothing, oh okay.

Speaker 2: 10:48

Nothing. And so I was very hesitant to ask you to give me things, because I'm like I don't want to get disappointed or whatever. And so finally I just kind of made it into a joke and I asked you for everything. I'm like, well, he's not going to get everything, and I said I would like 10 Lords of Leaping, please.

Speaker 2: 11:08

I want 10 Lords of Leaping for Christmas. Just go out of the extreme. That way, if it falls short, I'm prepared. Because it was a joke. This guy brought me an ornament one ornament and he said it's not 10 Lords of Leaping, but it is a partridge in a pear tree and I promise you, if we stay together you will get the Ten Lords of Leaping when it comes out.

Speaker 2: 11:31

Yeah, and I said what do you mean? And he said this is the beginning of the new collection at Hallmark. It started this year and if you wait long enough, you'll get the Ten Lords of Leaping. And I said that's in 10 years. He was like, yeah, yeah, very confident, yep, yep, and I'm like you want me to wait 10 years to receive this gift? He was like, yeah, and sure enough we did.

Speaker 2: 11:54

I think it ended what last year I think two years ago two years ago was the last ornament, and we collected all of the ornaments every year. It was like the most romantic thing that you did. It started our christmas season, we got it right after Thanksgiving and it was just oh, it's something I always looked forward to. So that was romantic and that was only one ornament, guys, it doesn't have to be crazy, but the thought, the consideration, the application, the delivery. Sometimes it's not what you do, sometimes it's how you do it that makes us feel romantic. And, guys, the reason why we're talking about romance is because it affects everything.

Speaker 1: 12:37

Oh yeah, it definitely does.

Speaker 2: 12:39

The reason why romance matters is because guys like to be physical. Okay, guys need to be as men.

Speaker 1: 12:50

Need to be. That's accurate.

Speaker 2: 12:51

As men they are wired to be physical, right, Right we are visual, we are touch, and feel Absolutely.

Speaker 2: 13:00

You guys need to have that. And so for women, because we're so in our heads or because of the hormones that we talked about last week, or just because of you know, we get over-touched, over-stimulated because we're with kids all day. If you're a mom, you know sometimes when it's time to pour into our partner, we just don't have it. We just don't have it. And so you have to think about in your relationship. Romance is like the gasoline that will fuel that passion in your partner.

Speaker 1: 13:33

Okay.

Speaker 2: 13:33

Okay, think about it Right, if you're trying to like pretend your wife is a car.

Speaker 1: 13:38

I love it. This is great.

Speaker 2: 13:39

Pretend your wife is a car and you want to go on a long road trip right right, we know what the trip is a road trip a road trip? Right, you want to take her on a road trip, but she doesn't have gas in her car. Right, how do you expect her to go? I love this, right, yeah what about guys who like fast cars? Like you want her to be all in. You want her to. You want her to zero to 60.

Speaker 2: 14:00

You want her to participate seconds you want her to engage, right, you don't want her to just five miles an hour right, like you want her to participate In 3.2 seconds. You want her to engage. Right, you don't want her to just five miles an hour. Right Like you want her to be an active moving vehicle. Right, you need gas. Right, you need good gas. Sometimes you might need that premium gas. Right, the high test.

Speaker 2: 14:18

You need that stuff right, and so you have to think about romance like gas in her car. If you don't feel her, if you don't make her feel special, if you don't make her feel wanted, desired, if you don't make her feel pretty because a lot of the times we don't feel pretty, we don't feel sexy, it's so good. If you don't put into that and then you're expecting her to go all the way, you're going to run into problems.

Speaker 1: 14:51

You got to put gas in the car. You got to take the car to the gas station. You got to bust out the card pay for the gas. Got to take the gas pump off the hook, Got to open the little door, the fuel door, put the pump in. The thing Is this foreplay what?

Speaker 1: 14:57

are you talking about? Yes, I'm talking. All those steps are important. That's all part of being romantic. So we got to go to the gas station, right, you got to speak her love language. Yes, you got to do things that tell her you're thinking of her, because women are physiological. Yes, their mind is connected to their body, right, right. So you got to show her you're thinking of her. You got to speak her love language. Not every woman's love language is gifts like mine. Some women want one love letter from you, bro, and you got to sit down and write it by hand Not type, not spoken to Siri and texted in a note.

Speaker 1: 15:28

Oh yeah, written down, put in a cute little envelope for her. It's all physiological. So when you're going to the gas station, these are the little things that lead up to that road trip. These are little things that lead up to you. So you get to the gas station, you got to pay Right that lead up to you. So you get to the gas station, you gotta pay right. Sometimes you gotta buy the gifts. Sometimes dinner and a movie does it right, that quality time, you might have a quality time lady, that's old who wants the date?

Speaker 1: 15:54

right, guys? She don't want to go driving 50 miles an hour in the awesome go-karts. All right, gotta know what your wife likes, know where she wants to go, know where the fuel door is on the car so that when you go to put the gas in you're on the right side of the pump. You know what I mean. It's not like a car where you got the little arrow that shows you where the gas door is. You got to know. You got to find that gas door and know how to put the gas in that engine so that when you're going on your road trip it's ready to go.

Speaker 2: 16:22

Yes, and it actually reminds me of something that we did in the past so good. So if you guys remember, if you've been with us long enough, you guys know that during some of the intimate episodes we talked about, we talked about a 30-day challenge, right, and it was a very physical 30-day challenge for Kyle and I to get intimate. However, before that challenge right, we did another challenge that was also 30 days worst listen to him. And it was called december, to remember, oh yeah it wasn't that bad.

Speaker 2: 16:57

Okay, I was thinking something else it was december to remember yeah and it was 30 days of Kyle being romantic to me.

Speaker 1: 17:06

Non-physically romantic.

Speaker 2: 17:08

Non-physically romantic to me Because we realized, before the 30 days of intimate challenge, we realized we got to get here first. Physiological, we got to make sure that we're connecting at this level first.

Speaker 1: 17:23

It's got to be in here. Okay, flow out here.

Speaker 2: 17:26

And Kyle literally wrote in a love letter. He did the typing, he did the typing on his phone and he printed it out Like that was one of the love letters.

Speaker 1: 17:33

Remember we're working on it, yeah.

Speaker 2: 17:35

And in the letter he said I hope to never have a December to remember again. But while we're here, I just want you to know like I love you and I care for you, and I'm just like what the F is. This Like this isn't romantic at all, and there were many nights where it was more challenging than not.

Speaker 1: 17:52

Yes, that's. The whole point of it was to figure out how to be romantic in a non-physical way, to figure out how to get fuel in her engine with romance that's not rubbing her feet every day.

Speaker 2: 18:05

That's not rubbing her feet every day, that's not rubbing her back every day. I think a lot of the times guys see it as work. They see it as it is work they get complacent definitely they feel like well, I already have the cow and she's already producing milk. Like, what is the point? Why should I have to do this anymore? You know, and for women, we feel like I married this person, this image, this ideal of a man, and then, as soon as we got married, he changed, he's no longer doing these things anymore.

Speaker 2: 18:36

And what happened? It's almost like we feel gypped because we're like what happened to the guy who was romanticizing me and now he's just demanding, like the romance turned to demands.

Speaker 1: 18:47

This goes right back to the way guys are wired. Yeah, right, we are wired with action and result, right, the hunting. We're out to hunt, we get the kill, we got the meat. Okay. So while we're, while we're engaged, while we're courting whatever premarital we are hunting Okay, we're courting whatever premarital we are hunting okay we are searching, yeah, we are getting that, that deer, the gazelle, whatever we're hunting, and we get it right.

Speaker 1: 19:12

and so, after the hunt is over, we think it's just it's nature for us is that we have it, it's ours. What do we have to try for? She's already committed, she's already, she's already agreed that that she's in for the whole deal, right, and it's so easy to get into the. I went to work and I brought home yes. I paid the bills, yes.

Speaker 2: 19:35

Tip or tap.

Speaker 1: 19:36

I bought you a car. That's as romantic as it gets.

Speaker 2: 19:39

Right.

Speaker 1: 19:40

And it's not. It's empty. That's not speaking to her physiological connection, that's not speaking to her mental connection with you. You have to. I think that's my whole gist is you have to connect with her brain to connect with her body.

Speaker 2: 21:04

I think that was one of our premarital counseling questions was what are you going to do to stay romantic with your partner? And it was both ways, because, ladies, your guy needs romance too. You can't just expect him to do everything and you're just sitting there on your pedestal.

Speaker 1: 21:25

That's next month's series that next month we'll get there but, also like guys.

Speaker 2: 21:29

If you know you need it, if you know there are times when you want to feel that right then what makes you think your wife, who is going through all of her body changes, dealing with the kids having to handle the home?

Speaker 1: 21:41

what makes?

Speaker 2: 21:41

you think that her position is not different than yours in the sense that you, she craves it. She craves to be wanted by her man. Just because the hunt is over doesn't mean that the wife still doesn't want to be pursued.

Speaker 1: 21:57

yeah, be pursued, absolutely no doubt. And that's where guys miss. Guys miss on that a lot. I've missed on that. It's like I said, it's so easy to fall into the routine of this is what we do. All right, it's Tuesday Time for our Tuesday appointment. Right, and not be on her mind.

Speaker 2: 22:20

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 22:21

Right, and it's whatever her love language is. It starts there yes and it builds from there yes and it goes deeper from there, my wife's. My wife is gifts. Okay, you start with the gifts. The gift is this, the gift is that gifts don't have to be expensive.

Speaker 2: 22:36

It could be a flower that you pick up from the field right.

Speaker 1: 22:39

The adventure to get the gift, the adventure around the gift, opening the gift, making all these things a connecting point, creating these connecting points with you and your spouse are huge. Last, I think this is the last we got time. My parents are both passed away now and they're in heaven. Love them, miss them, everything. But I was going through my dad's stuff and I found an old email that he printed out from my mom, and the email was her asking him to change how he put my brother to bed. My brother's 12 years younger than me, and they were discussing his bedtime and my dad's role in putting him to bed.

Speaker 2: 23:16

When she wasn't there.

Speaker 1: 23:17

When she wasn't there, and just the way she wrote this email and it read like poetry the way she wrote it, just how she opened it with just such respect and such gratitude for him, and how she expressed what has been working, first, like she did the whole sandwich thing. My mom was so smart, she did the whole, she told him what has been working and then she slid in what she wanted to change. Then she slid in what she wanted to change and then she closed just with the loving clothes. Her clothes was like your loving wife or your dear wife forever. It was just beautiful, just a beautiful piece of writing. That was her way of getting the work done in the house but also romanticizing him and his the love that he felt from that to print it out and keep that forever. Was was beautiful, just just beautiful.

Speaker 2: 24:11

Yeah, yeah, yeah. As I mentioned, you know, girls need to do it too.

Speaker 1: 24:16

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 24:16

And guys need to realize that this is an ongoing hunt. It is, it is a never ending pursuit, Not because you're trying to gain the game, but because the matters of the heart are so deep.

Speaker 1: 24:31

Because you want to.

Speaker 2: 24:32

That you're never going to fully explore and conquer all of it.

Speaker 1: 24:37

Because you want right, it has to be genuine right. If it's fake and forced, she gonna know and guys, it's not gonna work so what are some really quick things?

Speaker 2: 24:45

I mean, we talked about guys figure out the love language, but like what? For somebody who is just like okay, I'm at my ends, you know, my wife, we're not in a good place, you know what? What can I do to just break out?

Speaker 2: 24:59

of this mold and start to become more romantic, so that she's not like what do you want, what do you need? You know, like at the beginning of this mold, and start to become more romantic so that she's not like what do you want, what do you need? You know, like at the beginning of this episode, how can we make them ease into a way where their person feels it and connects with them and it becomes an ongoing restoration in their relationship?

Speaker 1: 25:19

Start over right, Start over as a couple.

Speaker 2: 25:22

Do you tell them?

Speaker 1: 25:23

yeah, yeah, hey, I want to. I want to connect with you better. I think we should start over and then initiate for the guys. For the guys start over, initiate. Hey, I'd like to take you on a date. I like to take you out to dinner. I like to take you somewhere simple. If dinner's too much, if dinner's intimidating, I want to take you get ice cream. I want to go to get brownies at the new brownie place. I want to go somewhere small, simple, but start by dating again, start by going out. Okay, just that in the date you will know what your wife likes already because you've been together and you will connect. And it might just like it's going to take a few dates before it feels comfortable, before the nerves are out.

Speaker 2: 26:02

They're not arguing. Go from there.

Speaker 1: 26:06

When we started dating we had this huge transition into we bought a house, renovated it. You can hear that story in previous episodes. But when we transitioned out of that and we had to reconnect, we couldn't talk on our way to dates because it would just end up in us fighting, us being mad at each other and we just hangry, zip the lips on the way to the date. Yeah, we would get the date done. We never gave up on the date and that was.

Speaker 1: 26:29

That was huge man yeah I just said date a lot yeah but go out with your wife, start over and start small you could just do small gestures.

Speaker 2: 26:37

I saw on a real once that there was this old man who after dinner he peels an orange every single day and he carves a part of the orange skin into the shape of a heart and he gives it to his wife. He has been doing this for years and then they show like she collected all the orange peels and there's like jars all around their house of these orange peels and that was just his little romantic thing that he did to show he loved his wife. Just start small start somewhere. I think that ultimately, just start. Just start doing something and make it genuine and don't make it feel like it's tit for tat and don't make it feel like see what I'm doing for you. This isn't a transactional thing.

Speaker 2: 27:22

This is something that should be coming out of your heart, and you desire to do this because you love her. You love her right. You love the girl you're with. You love her For real, for real, for real. Okay, show her, show her that you love her, show her that you love her. Let her hear that you love her.

Speaker 1: 27:39

It's so good. I think we've done all we can for this topic today.

Speaker 2: 27:43

We've done all we can for this series this month.

Speaker 1: 27:46

Man, let us pray and pray for these couples.

Speaker 2: 27:50

Yes, Lord.

Speaker 1: 27:51

Lord, we are grateful for you today, for giving us this space this time. Lord, we pray that those who have heard these words are able to take them and make action, steps and move forward. I pray for the relationships to be strong, for romance to flourish in them, for the men to take initiative, be the leader of their house in the way that you've called them to be. Lord, we thank you for this, we thank you for the romance between Selena and me, and we thank you for this ministry. We give you all the glory in Jesus's name, amen.

Speaker 2: 28:18

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Speaker 1: 28:43

Until then, take care bye I thought the analogy about the the car you lost the car.

Speaker 2: 28:59

I'm like what?

Speaker 1: 29:00

it was so good. It was so good nozzle guys will get that is he getting?

Speaker 2: 29:03

is he getting?

Speaker 1: 29:04

I'm getting gas, I'm putting the gas in the car, but like opening the fuel door, the little door that holds the gas cap like no, you're the car oh, okay, okay the door is the door to the romance okay putting the romance in there okay, so am I.

Speaker 2: 29:23

Are you gonna come home today and be romantic? Are you going to bring me stuff?

Speaker 1: 29:26

we just talked about. This romance doesn't start when I get home okay romance has started already. Oh, when I complimented you a bunch this morning oh when I, when I made sure that you didn't have to do anything this morning I'm not getting a cookie you can get a cookie okay, great chocolate chip yes, yes, I've been talking about it lately chocolate chip cookie hooray.